[wolftte702]

If anyone out there has any advice for me, it would be greatly appreciated!

I am currently married to my second husband. I had four children from my first marriage. He had never been married nor had any children of his own. He and my children had a wonderful relationship....before the wedding. After we were married he changed. He said his new role as "parent" required him to. I was very open and honest with him during our courtship about myself(the way I parent, spend time and money and keep house) There should have been no surprises-on his part. But boy was I surprised! He expected almost everything to change. The rules, the chores, the expectations and especially the consequences.
We have been married for two and a half years now and the arguments about parenting have continued. He feels that as the man he should be the "head of the house". Now I must say we are both Christians. I know that the bible says the man should be the head of the house. My only problem with this is because he is not the biological father of these children and sometimes I don't feel that he is thinking about what it best for them. He thinks about how "he" wants things or views certain things from the viewpoint of "not doing any favors for their (bio) father" I know he would never intentionally hurt them, but I fear some of his decisions would hurt them emotionally.
He is very strict. They are now 16, 14, 11 and 8. They were pretty much used to the way I parented. Even though we have made many, many adjustments for him, he is still not satified. He still feels that he doesn't have enough control because I still hold veto power over him when it comes to the kids.
Just curious to hear what anyone has to say about my situation. If you think I'm wrong I would like to hear your explanations. Maybe that would make me understand him better.
Thanks!