[sljackson443]

I'll try and make this short and sweet. I am a single parent of 17 year old daughter. After she got a car about a year ago, (she paid for herself from working and also pays for car *********** she took off...she's out of control. She comes and goes whenever she wants, is maybe home once a week...never for meals. She eats whatever and whenever she wants. She won't help with chores. She won't tell me where she's going and she won't answer her cell phone when I call. She got fired from her job a few months ago, but has saved up for "fun" times. If she does come home, its 2 am, and otherwise she might disappear for days. She will be a senior, is basically a straight"A" student, but other than that, she has no respect for me or my wishes. I've tried reasoning, counseling, but am obviously doing something wrong. Also she takes whatever out of the house she pleases....my cd's, my camera, towels, etc. I'm very frustrated and want my daughter back. She'd rather be anywhere but here.
I know she's smoke pot, drinks, and has sex with her VERY dysfuncitonal boyfriend. They broke up because of his physical and mental abuse...but are back together again. She thinks I'm an idiot and instead I feel like I lost my daughter. Any suggestions?
I tried laying down the ground rules about "adult" living, but she just ignores everything I say.

[Duncan]

Sounds very much like a drug problem to me. My experience is that typical teenage rebellion doesn't take the form you described above unless the rebellion involves drugs.

[jahspromise]

First of all... {{HUGS}}

You're daughter sounds ALMOST identical to mine, only my daughter doesn't have her driver's license or a car. She doesn't smoke pot, but she has recently gotten a underage drinking ticket.
She was in a car accident last October due to some drunk jerk, and almost lost her life. Her therapist says that she is suffering from PTSD.
Have you tried to get your daughter into counseling?

[Katy]

I was as a nightmare at 17 and acted almost identical to how you describe your daughters behaviour, however, i did not take take drugs, i was just pushing the boundries of freedom.
My mum took me on a mini break, just me and her, to explain how i was upsetting the rest of the family, day one i was grumpy, day two i listened and the ride home she got her daughter back.... obviously it wasnt plain saling from there but it was certainly a turning point. I remember feeling so wrapped up in myself i couldnt see that i was upsetting my family... Im sure you will find a way in to her world x x x