[meganblair]

Ok so my 18 month old has gotten very hard to handle, im not ure why she is like this. My fiance thinks its because i "baby" her to much, maybe he is right however i would like to get some feedback from mothers who may have been through this before and if you have any tips im open to them. My daughter throws fits for no apparent reason, often when i wont pick her up when she wants to be held, for example i came home the other night and she was in her high chair eating, i walked i and she wanted me to pick her up, when i didnt because she was eating she started screaming, so i tried to talk to her and sit with her while she ate but she wouldnt stop so i put her in her room. i went in every few mins to see if she was ready to come out and finish her dinner, this lasted about 20 mins because i wouldnt carry her, i wanted her to walk from the room back to the table. My fiance then went and left the door open and out she came, he told her to go eat and she did. So why is it that she listens so intently to him and does not ever throw a fit with him but with me its totally opposite? is it something i may have done?? her sister and her both get plenty of love and attention from me i dont get why she is doing this. She will throw fits all day bc she wants to constantly be in my lap or being held....also she will wake up in the night and cry and i cant console her at all. I think i read somewhere it may be night terrors however i think it may be more of a "i just want mommy" thing.....any tips or ideas would be greatly appreciated...
Thanks

[saradalton]

Seems like a worrisome situation.. ok you should better find some reasons first. Ask her politely and pay attention to her words. Anyway, read the tips to avoid tantrums here

http://www.thelaboroflove.com/articl...ime-what-to-do

you will find it useful and i hope your daughter gets better soon.

[barbara1taylor1]

Definitely you should consult a doctor ...

[Mimi6196]

I am having the exact same problem with my daughter except my daughter is much younger, she is only 10 months old. However everything you have described describes my daughter to a "T". She only whines when I am around, she insists on being held ALL the time, she wakes up as much as three times a night exhausted but wants out of bed so that I may rock her. My husband too insists that I baby her too much. I had to laugh because she is a baby and don't babies need that much attention? I honestly have not been too worried about it bc I figured it was just a phase but after reading your thread I'm concerned now that she needs to be broken of this right away. At what age did your daughter start this? Are you concerned at all with the people she is being left with while you are away? Or maybe she is just falling in love with you and needs to be near you all the time? (This was my sister's explaination when I told her what my daughter was doing lol) Are you finding that by ignoring her demands it only makes it worse? Are you spending enough quality time with her during the day? Maybe she needs more of your undivided attention to be satisfied? I have found that if I spend a good hour or so at least with my daughter reading and playing, etc. she is more content to play by her self for a little while. I turn every noise machine off in the house and look her directly in the eyes and I talk and she listens. (Sometimes she "talks" back) Sometimes I think mothers get so busy and don't realize it and give them maybe 15 mins here and there inbetween what we are doing but that just doesn't cut it. Does she need more of a predictable routine? Just wanted to throw a few things at you. Good Luck and keep us posted!

[haydeejamison]

Its very common behaviour of kids. They will be normal in growing age.

[hambo]

This is normal behavior for children that age, its called the 'terrible twos'. Its the age where children start to learn where the boundaries are. At that age children dont know what is acceptable behaviour and what isn't they need to learn.

If the child is naughty you need to stay calm, tell them in a firm voice they have been naughty and then put them into the naughty corner/step/room. Leave them there for one minute for each year of their age - so a 2 year old gets two minutes. Dont give them any attention when they are naughty, but heap praise on them when they are good.

Children always respond better to being told of by the father, probably because of the louder and deeper voice being a bit more scary!

[BryceS]

Boy do I know this problem. Yes time will help, I have gone through this with three of my kids so far and an 18 month old in it now. My two cents- when she is able to understand, tell her you cant understand her, or cant hear her when she goes into her tantrum. Only talk, hold or do what she wants when she finally calms down. Nothing is more frustrating for a toddler than when their tantrums are ignored. GOOD LUCK!

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[chrisoreta]

Hey Hambo...I like your suggestions...didnt think of putting them in the corner for a minute or two (according to age) when they are naughty...that should let them know that they have been naughty and will not want to be in the corner again for a while. Very nice idea.
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