[bella16]

My 4 year old daughter is beautiful! bright, funny, sweet, helpful...BUT she is a terrible whiner! I am at wits end as to what to do with her. It is not the typical whining (like, I want that, I don't wanna go to bed, etc). She overreacts to other kids actions, or when toys/games don't work the way she wants them to. Instead of using words to express herself, she screams and cries and whines (...mommmy, mommmy, she took my ___ , I don't want to play this game with them, this barbie's dress won't come off, etc). I have tried everything I know and heard about to stop this behavior. We have done time out, talked to her, sent her to her room until the crying stops and she will talk to us in a normal voice, ignored her until she stops (very hard!), etc. She listens to us, she says she understands. We have given her alternative ideas on how to express herself and words to use with other kids or to tell us. Nothing has stopped her. I am a child care provider and I don't have this problem with any other child in my care. Does anybody have any other techniques you would advise me to try?

[jjhill]

I'm glad i'm not the only one with this problem. My daugher is almost 6 and does the same thing and my 4 year old is starting. When she whines we send her right to her room and she is not allowed to come out until she is done and will say she is sorry. I have been told to just ignore the behavior and like you said it is very hard. I tell my kids that if they are going to whine they can go right to their room. Sometimes it works. But if anyone has ideas I am open to them

[MissyChrissy]

Consistency. Pick one way to deal with it and stick with it...it can take months. Good luck!

[deedee1231]

Originally Posted by MissyChrissy

Consistency. Pick one way to deal with it and stick with it...it can take months. Good luck!

Ditto! Good Luck!

[MaggiesMommy]

Originally Posted by MissyChrissy

Consistency. Pick one way to deal with it and stick with it...it can take months. Good luck!

I agree also.

[Possibility_girl]

my daugher is 3.5 and is starting to feel her oats too, she gets rough, throws the bottle when i wont fill it fast enough, etc. i react to her depending on what she is doing. with her, ignoring and not giving into her works best. if she throws the bottle it stays on the ground and i walk away, not giving her any attention about it. If she hits, she goes to her room untill she is quiet. But the over all theme is to keep at it, i went through a long period of my son acting up and was at my wits end and it eventually stopped. i know its hard while you are going through it but it will get better