[sportsmom36]

I posted earlier on the article site and this is where I should have been, in this discussion. I would like to hear from women who have lived with an unsaved husband for 25-30 plus years. I married an unsaved man and I became a Christian the following year (1978). He never had any problem with me taking the children to church and being involved in the programs. He also realizes the gifts I have (as in music) and has no problem with me using them. My daughter married in a very Christian ceremony 3 yrs. ago after attending a Christian college. Both my in-laws have passed on and their funerals befitted the Christian life they lived. It is hard for me to understand why a person can continue decades with the hardness he has and I would love some comment. We also have a son who is a believer, but does not talk much to his dad about that--they just don't relate on that level. We do have discussions, many of them and he knows the Bible better than many believers. But the years go on and on and I get very discouraged. I lost my brother last year suddenly and it makes me realize that we may not have all the time in the world! I have read all the books and I don't "preach" but he knows where I stand on things. Are there any "older" women out there who can give me some advice?

[vanaden]

Originally Posted by MJ7

I think sometimes some may feel it is up to them to impact their spouse's heart for Christ. We ought to remember God is more than capable of touching the very point in one's heart--much better than we ever could. We are called to be vessels of Christ, not God Himself. It took a large step of faith for me to back off and trust that God would use me as He so chose, not as I willed.

It is true that we are not and could never be God. But He also instucts us to be witnesses and lights to the world. If we keep the joy of the Lord all to ourself, isn't that really selfish? The advisary may try to convice you to be quiet, but I refuse! I will shout what God has done for me from the house tops, and profess His goodness! If we don't ever talk about how good He is, why would anyone want to get to know Him?

And as for unsaved spouses, the bible says that the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the believing wife, and vice versa.
Just keep letting your light shine and spread His goodness and love. People will be automatically drawn to that. And pray pray pray! Pray that his heart will be softened. And also tell him how much God loves him!

[AussieD]

Sometimes husbands and other family members are the hardest to witness to, because they see us at our worst. This is where example is so important. I have been in this situation with my Mom. I belivee actions speak louder than words and that we ned to pray for God to be at work in them. It's up to the Lord to change their hearts, not us and it may take, as far as we are concened, longer than we would like. But we need to be faithful in prayer, learn when to be quiet and when to speak, relying on the Holy Spirit ot guide us and realise that it may be another person who will say something to our loved one that will finally convict their hearts of their need of God.

[tmwhalens]

When my wife married me I was a Christian, and had been saved, but was not living my life as a follower of Christ. Sound familiar to any others here? I was missing the most important piece to the puzzle. Or rather I had put down that first puzzle because all the pieces with the straight edges were connected (with a huge hole in the middle), and had gone on to try and pick up pieces of my own life (a huge mistake). It took God taking her and my son away from me (they left me on 12/04/0 in order for God to create a setting where it was just He and I. The silence was deafening. His words were music to my ears. I completely gave into Him on that day, and told him from that day forward I wasn't doing this alone. That I was tired of the darkness I was living in. That I needed His guidance. It would be easy for me to say that my wife could have done this or that. She could have pulled out the Bible and read verses of scripture with me. I would have rebelled. She could have gone onto church with my son, without me. I would have stayed home and played video games. For all the things she didn't do, God gave me plenty of warning. My marriage was crumbling. My son was beginning to call me something other than 'Daddy' (you can find out a little more about that in my first thread here). I was pushing my family away. On and on and on. So, yes, I can definitely relate to those women who have married Non-Believing men (from the other side).

[Hannah888]

Hi! I am new here but hope to chat more to some of you.
Re the situation with unsaved husbands. I have been born-again for 18 years and it doesn't get any easier living wtih a non-believer. However, I have been listening to Andrew Wommack's teachings since Easter and wow! have I had my eyes opened!
First of all, we need to pray right! Let me know if anyone out there wants to know more!
Best wishes
Hannah x

[AussieD]

yes we need to pray for them and then just be faithful in our Christian walk and leave the rest up to God who lives them even more than we do. I am blessed in being married to one who shares my faith but have seen through ladies I had in a bible study group how hard it is for women to have non Christian husbands, which is why God urges belivers not to marry unbelievers. Here's a blog about it. http://marriage.families.com/blog/do...orshiptogetherWe should be teaching our children this and saving them the stress.

[richard34]

Hello to alll
This is very interesting topic for discussing for all. In this relation it is very hard for women to contiune the life with there partner by two different religions and of different thinking of there family members.On this topic i m totally agree with burfield1mom. She have very nice view regarding this.I m totally with them.
Thank you

[lizzy79]

my husband and i were both raised in christian families. we both went to a christian liberal arts college and at the time that we started dating and eventually married, i thought we were both on the same page spiritually. but we have been married for almost 7 years now, and since we have been married, my husband has shown little interest in being a christian. i have watched him slip away from his faith and choose to live a very secular life. for a while, i kind of followed suit. we both had a lot of "beef" with the church in general. but as time went on, and we had children, i started longing to renew my faith and to restore my relationship with God. my husband still has no interest. it is extremely painful for me. i feel like this is a huge area of our lives that we cannot connect on, we cannot share with each other. i am taking my kids to church alone now and it is so hard. i feel completely alone in this area of our marriage and parenthood and my heart also aches that my boys will not be able to have an example of a strong christian man in their father. i know i am supposed to pray for him and i do. but it doesn't change the fact that this is very painful and leaves me feeling extremely lonely at times. all of my friends are married to really amazing christian men. its hard to see that and be reminded of what i do not have in my own marriage. i would really love to find some kind of support group or something where i can talk with other people experiencing this. it is a very lonely place to be.

[QueenAngie]

Lizzy79, welcome to the board!

Just keep playing for your husband and invite him to go to church for special programs w/ the children. I went through a period of time similar to you when my sons were young, it was easy taking them to Sunday School, but sitting through church with 2 little boys was very distracting and trying (even with the little story books, cars, crayons, etc). DH had faith, just had issues with the church for many years. He would come to their Christmas programs or special events maybe once a year.

Finally, we changed churches, due to our sons going to a Christian school rather than public, and when DH found the tuition was less expensive if we became members, he agreed to start going to the new church because it hit him in the checkbook. ! Not the reason to go to church, but I think it was God giving my DH a nudge in the right direction.

My older son was age 7 at the time of the change and, now as an adult, does not recall the time when Daddy did not go to church w/ us. He does recall the 1st church, but not that his Daddy did not attend too. DH attends church and has now for a number of years.

Keep praying. ((((Hugs)))

[mmm10]

I am new here and just curious if anyone still posts on this blog?