[mclaughlinheidi]

Originally Posted by happimommaof2

Hello I am new here I have 2 children a 6 year old girl and a 4 year old boy! My question is about my daughter, she has been in school since August she is in kindergarten and she seems to not be making friends, she is a very shy child and 9 times out of 10 you have to come to her she will not go to you! But it is really bothering me because I want her out there making friends and instead she comes home and tells me how no one plays with her and all she does is swing by herself at recess, I have been up there when she was at recess and that is exactly what she does, she was playing with a little boy but then yesterday he told her that she did not color pretty so she wont talk to him anymore. I am at my wits end I do have her in counseling because of a few problems I have had with her, but I dont know what to do, I am trying to think of ways to make her kind of stand out because she is so shy and withdrawn. If anyone has any suggestions please I need all the help I can get..
Thank you God Bless
Amanda

Hi amanda, your problem is similar to my sisters'. There are a few points about shyness in children which will help you better understand the best approach in dealing with your child. You will need to identify the nature of your child's shyness. Children are shy in different ways for different reasons. Understanding the nature of your child's shyness will help you develop a program geared towards your child's specific needs. I numbered below a few tips on what you can do for your child:

1. You'll need to find out the type of situations that make your child shy.
2. Don't call your child "shy"
3. Never compare your shy child with other children in a negative way.
4. Help your child identify talents and hobbies that make him or her feel special.
5. Seek out activities that offer an opportunity for growth and increased interaction with other children of his or her age. Encourage your child to get involved in activities with others. Don't allow too many isolating activities, like watching TV.
6. Never push your child to do things he or she would find unbearable. Rather, make suggestions, but realize your child may not be ready. Be patient.
7. You need not handle your shy child with kid gloves, but be aware of how he feels and show that you understand.

In that way I assure you her being shy will turn to be a smart child!