[jjsmommy02038]

All those with very shy children, I would check out this site http://www.selectivemutism.org/ It is the Selective mutism site. My son has been dx with this. A childhood anxiety disorder where he is too anxious to talk. There is just normal shyness and then there is selective mutism. I was going crazy until I found the site about a year ago. I read for 2 minutes on the site and said "that is my son". Since then he has been dx and is receiving treatment. We have seen great improvements in the past year. He has a group of friends at preschool and socializes quite a bit now. I just don't want this to be overlooked when children are shy, it could go deepere and the sooner the help the better.
Ellen

[happimommaof2]

Just out of curiosity what is the treatement for that?
Thanks
Amanda

[jjsmommy02038]

The therapy usually consists of Congnitive Behavioral Therapy. They try to get the child to change his way of thinking, with young children like my son it is play therapy. Anti-anxiety medications are often prescribed because it is such a severe anxiety issue. Not all parents go that route though. The number one thing you do at first is to have everyone in the child's live stop pressuring the child to speak. When we found out about my son's dx and did just that, the anxiety level dropped dramatically. Then slowly things improved. It was a matter of having a playdates with just one child until he start speaking with that child and then adding another child and so on. It is a long struggle. My son now speaks to almost everyone at preschool but still does not speak with Uncles,Aunts, Karate teacher and many more. You can find a lot more info on that website in my last post, it has been a life safer for me!

[kimgoldmann]

Hi Sorry to hear she is so shy..it's hard mom I was one of those mom's also. My daughter was always alone and played alone. Most kids don't undersatnd why other kids are so quiet or shy...so they stay away from them cause they are no fun.
I put up with this for many years and had her go to counling for this.No matter how much love and understanding you give them...they can't get out of the shell. It's not anything you are doing wrong mom. The teachers couldn't get answers from her ever all she did was shrug her shoulders. They were at wits and with her.Finally they put her in a class with kids just like her and she started to open up. It takes time and if she had a close friend to make her feel safe that will help also. She will come thru just give it time. My daughter is in 10th now and she finally lost the shyness and gain confidence. good things come with time....good luck

Originally Posted by happimommaof2

Hello I am new here I have 2 children a 6 year old girl and a 4 year old boy! My question is about my daughter, she has been in school since August she is in kindergarten and she seems to not be making friends, she is a very shy child and 9 times out of 10 you have to come to her she will not go to you! But it is really bothering me because I want her out there making friends and instead she comes home and tells me how no one plays with her and all she does is swing by herself at recess, I have been up there when she was at recess and that is exactly what she does, she was playing with a little boy but then yesterday he told her that she did not color pretty so she wont talk to him anymore. I am at my wits end I do have her in counseling because of a few problems I have had with her, but I dont know what to do, I am trying to think of ways to make her kind of stand out because she is so shy and withdrawn. If anyone has any suggestions please I need all the help I can get..
Thank you God Bless
Amanda

[farmall140]

I don't know what to about my little girl she is 6 and in the 1st. grade. She will not talk to her teachers but she will some of the children in her classroom. Her teacher said this is messing with her grades and I dont know what to do.
Thanks Farmall140

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[jaimebg]

After working at a summer camp for a number of years I have seen very shy kids come out of their shells. The camp I work for is also an academic camp so kids are supported and encouraged to learn new skills and the sense of accomplishment really builds their self-esteem. It is amazing to see a very shy camper on check-in become the biggest social butterfly by the end of camp. It warms the heart.
It might be something to look into! Our camp is run at 50 Universities across the country if you want to check it out.
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[haileysummers]

The only thing i want to advise it to inspire her in all possible way. telling her to do something doesn't make it better.. sometimes kids don't like to be told.



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[lindsey2write]

Try setting up some play dates with moms and other kids-eventually she'll warm up!



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[JMike]

Hi Amanda,
Your concern genuine. But what you must understand is that no two kids are similar.Try indulging your kid in activities & kids workshops. Take out to the park & let her play with kids of her age. I am sure she will act as an ice breaker. Good Luck