[erinellakal]

This is more of a vent but if you have any suggestions please help!

Erin(51/2) and Ella(will be 3 in October) are fighting non stop! They're fighting over toys, the tv, how to play games. EVERYTHING! I have sent them to thier room, the corner, taken away TV time....they won't stop!!!!!

Erin usually picks the fight and then Ella gets really mad and screams and hits and kicks. I have told Erin to just stay away from Ella, but she can't help herself...she WANTS to fight with her!

I know its normal for sibling rivalry, but i am tired of being referee.

[DivasMomma]

eh, let em knock each other out



JUST KIDDING!!!!

Sounds like me and my sister (and sorry but it still goes on NOW!)

I wish I could help you...maybe just more alone time with each of them would help a little? Take whatever they are fighting over and throw it away? Or hide it so they think u threw it away? that way they know it wont be tolerated...sorry thats all i have

[jd1331]

Sounds like me and my sisters too. We did eventually grow out of it (about 2 years ago) When we were younger my mom would seperate us and put us in our rooms. Then let 1 out at a time depending on who started it, who escalated, who was just caught in the fray. When we ended up all out of our rooms if anyone started trouble, at the first sign that trouble maker was sent back to their room. Eventually we learned just to fight when she wasn't home. She let us know she was over it and would be just as content with all three of us in our respective bedrooms then she would to be in the same room with us. She said it only took about a week of being vigilant then we all got the picture.

[KR258]

I'd try to explain to them both that they're gonna be family for the rest of their lives and really should be nicer to eachother. Maybe for all the things they fight over you could make a schedule and at this time it's Erins tv time so we watch what she wants and after 30 minutes or so it's ellas tv time and watch what she wants...and try to do that for all the things they fight about. If they start fighting then it gets taken away and they have to sit in the corner or their room (without toys or tv) till they will behave better.

[MommaColleen]

Don't laugh, but this worked (actually I still use it sometimes) on my older two. Make them play together. Don't let them play by themselves or with anyone else...they must play together. Tell them they have to play together until they play nicely. They will either get along or kill each other trying (ok, not literally).

I'm telling you, they play so nice together when they are punished. 9 times out of 10 they continue to play with each other after the punishment is over. I have tried to get them to understand how much easier it would be to play that way ALL the time...but they don't get it.

Now, my neighbor makes his 2 sit, facing each other holding hands. I just don't see that helping.

[KR258]

I thought about suggesting that if they're fighting then tell them they're going to have to share rooms and when they're not good send them both in their room.....it'll probably be tough but they should learn to work it out. As long as they're not seriously hurting eachother.........

[deedee1231]

Recently my six year old twins have been bickering quite a bit and also fighting over toys. It is quite frustrating!

I usually ask them to calm down and explain to me what they are arguing about (without shouting or whining) and then ask them to offer suggestions on how they can resolve this problem without any more fighting and then let them follow their own advice. After a few weeks of this I have begun to ask them "Is there any way you two girls can work out this problem without my help?" Usually they can, you just have to teach them how to do it.