[MJ7]

llambros, I hear you and I think perhaps that's why babydawn was stressing the "don't judge" comment. But an adoption does not have to take place for Brad to be the kids' dad should something happen to Ms. Jolie. We are getting ready to adopt our second son now and will be going to our attorney to have will drawn up. You can still make legal arrangments for the future without having to have someone else adopt your children at the moment. Perhaps there is some ignorance with this couple as far as how custody and legal status works? I suppose it's possible. I'll tell ya though, I don't think I'd be as quick as she seems to be to choose a person she hasn't been with long to become my kids' daddy. Why does he also have to be "daddy" why can't he be like an uncle since there is "no romantic involvement"? I think there is some implication there. It's sad to me that these kids are reaching out so much for a dad as they've been calling Brad daddy, but I still don't feel it's the right thing to do.

[swt1899]

As an adoptee I think this is an odd situation. The two aren't married and that just doesn't sit well with me. What if my parents were never married but lived together? It might lead to any easy split... no binding to try and stay together when things get tough.
Adoption is wonderful and I am sure their children have anything and everything they need, but the lack of marriage between the two seems to make me believe that some parts of the family are unstable.
Just my 2 cents.

[Samual]

One thing, when are people going to realise relationships and marriage are the same and they make no difference. People use the excuse oh they aren't married they might split up, not heard of divorce? It's proven that being married or not doesn't change the chances of the relationship ending, so excuses of people quitting relationships but not marriages, is pityful really.
Why would people rather they get married, to dodge social services so they don't need to be suitable in the slightest to be granted legal custody and to enter an unwanted marriage, does that sound good to you?
I don't think people who are either not there, or dragging their children everywhere really should not be having children, biological or not. How long he has been part of their life doesn't bother me in the slighest, or how long the adults have been together, so what if it's only been a few years, you all know people who were pretty quick to have children, but people seem to ignore that when a pregnancy is envolved.
I can see why they would do it for legal reasons, our youngest isn't yet in our full custody, even if we make a will or a legal agreement, it does not have to be considered if anything happened to us, she can be put straight back into care and our wills ignored.
Not only that, they all call him dad yes, but I'm sure the adopted children are aware that he isn't their real dad, whilst he is to the others, thats not exactly nice for them.
If they were actually at home looking after their children I would have no problem, but they aren't so none of them should of gained custody of any children from the care system.