[nadiam36]

I am a divorced mother of 2 wonderful, well-behaved teenagers. My boyfriend moved in with me and my children a year ago. He has 3 children two of whom are in college. One is graduating this spring. Their mother packed and moved out of state a few months ago with the younger boy who is almost 16. Since the mother moved out of state, my boyfriend kept hinting that he wanted his two college age daughters to move in with us, because they don't have jobs and they need a place to live so they could be closer to their friends and boyfriends.
I love my boyfriend, but our relationship has been up and down since the beginning, mostly because of his financial situation and sometimes because of his kids dependence on him financially and otherwise.

My problem is that I do not want his adult kids living with us, not when they are 21 and 24 and could be living alone with roommates to learn some independence. There are many reason why I don't want them moving in. 1) I don't want to make my kids feel sqeezed out of their own home by having to share their space with two additional adults, 2) I do not have enough room to house two additional adults, plus his teenage boy who will be spending some time (if not all) with us this summer 3) I am afraid we will have more fights, because he will not expect his kids to follow any house rules, etc and I will have to confront him about it, 4) I feel that me and my kids need our privacy and space and I am not used of having 2 additional people living with us 5) I am 44 and at this point in my life, I like to enjoy my life, be romantic with the guy I love, have some piece and quiet.

Ever since he moved in, our lives have been consumed by resolving his issues....he has overdue bills that we need to pay, his car breaks down that needs fixing, his daughter needs a new car that we need to buy, his son has emotional problems we need to deal with, his ex is demanding this or doing that. I feel that I have been making sacrifices to accomodate him and his children. It should also be noted that I pay more than 2/3 of our household expenses and bills....his contribution is 1/3 in a good month, sometimes less if he needs money to pay a bill or help out one of his kids with their bills.

Maybe I am being selfish, but as I said, I am 44 and I have raised pretty independent kids and I am looking forward to my kids moving out and going to college....I don't want to raise more kids.
Am i being unreasonable?
Nadia