11-01-2007, 01:24 PM
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advice needed
Hi, i need some advice. I never wanted to bf my girls, then when i was pregnant with my son i decided i really wanted to cus it is so much better, problem is that lasted all of about 6 weeks cus dh is VERY against bf. We are ttc again and i really would like to be able to bf the next on for a good 6 months if now more but i know that wont happen without his support. What can i do to get him to be ok with it, His family is against it as well they must be from the bm is bad generation but i really need to get him to understand that bm is better than formula and its not giong to make our baby be unhealthy. any suggestions would be greatly appreciated! 
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11-01-2007, 01:33 PM
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I hope this doesn't sound funny but do you have religious restrictions that would inhibit breastfeeding? Or is it more of a ewwwwww that's gross type thing?
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11-01-2007, 01:38 PM
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he is not religous in any way shape or form, his idea of "church " is weddings and funerals, he just thinks that bm if bad for the baby and absolutly gross, the 6 weeks i bf our son he couldnt bare to be around when i was feeding, and if i pumped he was like disgusted. want to make him at ease about it so i can bf succesfully with the next one!
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11-01-2007, 02:06 PM
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Gosh. . .is he educated on it? I guess not but I'm not sure what to say bc honestly, if he doesn't want to change his mind. . .he won't. But if he's open to the education. . .why not go visit the pediatrician and let him ask questions? (And by that I mean make him ask questions!) Most hospitals hold bfing classes and generally men are welcome if not encouraged to come. I honestly cannot fathom where he'd get the idea that bm is bad for the baby. What does he think breasts are for?
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11-02-2007, 12:48 PM
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My boyfriend is pretty grossed out by breastfeeding. Thankfully he doesn't oppose me doing it, though. He just hates to see me pump and he can't stand it if/when I bf in public. If you can't get your hubby to be supportive, maybe you could at least get him to be quiet about it (in a nice way, of course)? That would help you a little at least.
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11-02-2007, 06:02 PM
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i'm lucky, DH & I are on the same page on breastfeeding. and even though i get SUPER embarrassed if i'm pumping around him, he doesn't mind. If i were in your shoes -> i would first and foremost tell DH to void whatever his family tells him -- this is your child, not theirs. Second, i would educate him on breastmilk vs. formula. Lastly, If he's not even open to the idea, then he's
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11-03-2007, 06:53 PM
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I think that he just needs to be educated. I really fail to understand why some guys (and women too for that matter) are so against breast feeding. Anyone would think that it was not natural. Remind him that not only will breast feeding make his child stronger, it will also help to reduce your tummy and reduce chances of cervical cancer. And, it is natural. What did people do before formula milk and bottles? They died. Simple as that. We are mammals not robots!
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11-04-2007, 03:28 AM
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I'm sorry I just have to say that it does not reduce your chance of cervical cancer. . .I think you mean breast cancer.  |
11-05-2007, 05:14 PM
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I stand corrected, and sorry for the poor advice. I was sure that I read something once about breast feeding also reducing the risk of cervical cancer, but having just done some research on the subject, I could not actually find anything at all.
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11-06-2007, 08:06 AM
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See everything was opposite with us...my dh had to convince ME that bm is better... which now I know it is... dh is really weird about it... I'd tell him that they are your breasts and you'll feed your child if you want to.... I'm sorry I'm just a crab today.... lol
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