[MaryS]

I am sooo at a loss. I have a wonderful 13 y/o daughter. She has always been an exceptional child. Excellent grades, popular, pretty, athletic, etc. Last year she started "going out" with a boy at school. This only consisted of seeing him at school and what not.
Over this past summer we allowed the kids to see eachother at eachothers houses as long as a parent was home and supervising. This was not something that I was totally OK with, but I really didn't see any harm in it.
Now...OMG....I don't know what to do. About 3 weeks ago my husband and I were woken up by the cops beating at the door. They found my daughter walking down the street at 2:30am. You could imagine my surprise when I open the door and see a cop standing there with my daughter!!! She was on her way to her boyfriends house that lives about 3 miles away!! (keep in mind that we do not allow our children to walk the streets even during the day!)
We talked to her about all the crazy things that could have happened. Grounded her from everything. Cell, computer, home phone, everything. We were hoping that this would be an isolated incidence, but...
A week ago, my cell phone comes up missing. Ask and ask where it is, nobody knows. My husband goes in her room one night because the dog is barking and catches her holding the phone, texting her boyfriend. Busted. To make matters worse when I was checking the messages the next morning I realized that he was right outside her bedroom window!! That is why the dog was barking!
More talks about the dangers of what could happen...etc... I feel like we are repeating the same conversations over and over again....
Two days ago my phone comes up missing again. I knew she had it, but hubby keeps insisting that she wouldn't do it again. Guess what...I went online to check the usage and sure enought another 1300 texts had been sent from my phone to her boyfriends!!!!
I demand my phone. Now I am beyond mad, hurt, upset...I am livid!! She insists she doesn't have it until I tell her that I have it all pulled up online! Then she caves and gives it to me......
Where do I go from here????
I am in tears just trying to write this.
She is grounded from the phones, computer, etc. I switched her from her normal school to a charter school. We have spoken with the boyfriend and parents. She has a ton of chores (more than I would have ever given a child). What now. Were these good choices. My heart hurts because this is her 8th grade year and she is not able to do all the fun things that 8th graders would be doing, she is away from all her friends and I feel terrible. I know she did this to herself, but I can't believe how my heart hurts.
Could anybody suggest anything more??? Less??? Please help...