[brieanniepannie]

some of my friends decided to stop talking to me because I "make bad decisions" and am "ruining my boyfriend's life" and am "being completely selfish" for wanting the baby... despite any problems that may arise. I feel God (no offense to anyone's beliefs, or whatnot) won't give me anything I can't handle, and that everything happens for a reason. I feel blessed to be pregnant with another little human being.
But...
Everyone is freaking out. Luckily the girls at work are happy for me... but everyone else... when I need a friend they all bail. I really need someone to lean on but they all left...
I am starting to question everything.
If you went through this, how did you deal? I already feel isolated and I JUST found out I was pregnant. I want this pregnancy to be happy and joyful, but its already off to a rough start.

[KR258]

Most are freaking out about me being pregnant too...and "What you were trying?!" after all the issues we've had. Our issues are nothing compared to some others...and Yes! We were trying and Love this baby! I don't think you should ever feel bad for wanting your child and loving your baby. Your boyfriend shouldn't feel that way either...I don't think you're being selfish. I would think it would be more the other way around for your boyfriend orginally not wanting anymore. Esp since you're the one who would be taking the most care of the children. I know it's hard....but if they bail on you they weren't great friends to start with. They should come around. 's

I expected Congrats.....but most of what I got was "How did this happen?!" It hurts alot. This website helps me times a million

[brieanniepannie]

yeah, a lot of people are saying, "I dont know what to say".
This website helps a million for me as well, however I am getting a sinking feeling. So far so good with my boyfriend, but I feel like... anyday it's all going to come crashing down.
I really wanted this to be a happy time.
I really have to figure out how to let things just roll off my shoulders.
And no better time than now, having pregnancy hormones running rampant!

[KR258]

I would tell them what to say and how you feel about it and force your feelings on them. Gush about your happiness...I understand how it can be scary. You just are gonna have to have faith its gonna be okay. I agree that God doesn't give us more than we can handle but he does sometimes make the burden feel impossible to carry. I hope that things stay good for you and get better. Try to remember that whatever happens, good or bad, it is how it's supposed to be. Even if its very painful...It may seem senseless but I'm sure God has some reason for it all.

Your hormones are probably making you extra sensitive (I know I am!) and perhaps you're over reacting. Maybe...you shouldn't be paying attention to what others are saying. Of course you should try to make your boyfriend happy but I wouldn't sacrifice my children for his happiness and I don't think you would either. I pray it will work out for the best for you and your children!

[brieanniepannie]

Thank you for your support.
No matter what I will NEVER sacrifice my children for anyone else.
EVER.
I may have feelings that I am not proud of but I love my son, he is my world, and I love my unborn baby.
I am just scared and emotional right now.

[QueenAngie]

Congrats and we are so happy for you!

'Way back when' there were not 2 min pg tests and sometimes
ladies did not know they were pg until they were showing,
or felt the baby move.

Sometimes, particularly when others can be so very negative,
it would be better to wait telling those negative people.....
until you're at the hospital and have given birth!

! Just teasing.

Can't believe they would be so negative, and right to your face.
Are these girls truly your friends? A friend does not turn tail
like that. They are acquaintances only.

It is your baby. Your decision. We are all behind you 100%!

[twinzplus3]

Ditto! I'm proud of you for keeping the baby and of course you love it and want it. Friends don't bail. In fact friends are the ones who come around when the going gets rough.

[DivasMomma]

Im in the same situation...Needless to say, I dont talk to any of my old friends anymore. All of my new friends have kids. Its funny when one of my friends from awhile ago gets pregnant that suddenly come back into my life. They jsut dont understand until they are there. I have nothing in common with my old friends anymore anyway. I moved on, made new friends, and now when I go hang out with someone I can take my kids and giive them a play date too!

[Magic_Mikki]

Everyone is right on... those so-called friends must have just been acquaintances, and not true friends! Perhaps you could wait until you are further along to tell others? Let the idea sink in with you and your boyfriend. And Rhianna is right, now you have the opportunity to make new friends with similar interests!

[brieanniepannie]

Thank you ladies, i feel a bit better.
The only reason I told some people.. well I thought these girls were my best friends but I was wrong.
I also told the ladies at work because I get morning sickness pretty early (at least I did with Mikael) and i did not need rumors swirling around, it's a pretty catty office of 20 girls/women.
But they are the only people I have told.
My two best friends who I needed the most bailed. haha... Oh well.
I am waiting to tell everyone else until I am further along.
I guess I just don't understand what the big deal is it's not uncommon to have children close in age, and I think that 1 1/2 years is pretty good.
Imagine what others would say if they have known about my miscarriage a few months ago... the babies would have been really close in age then.
i guess we will see what our parents say later on down the road