[lavatea]

So I've been following the "Do you spank or not?" debate over in the family values forum and although I do occasionally spank, the thread has inspired me to try other methods of disciplining my two (almost three) year old daughter (spanking rarely works for me with her anyway). So far I've tried taking away things when she doesn't obey - especially if it is a toy that is relevant to what I'm wanting her to do. This has worked some, but it's not the magic bullet I was hoping for. I've also tried talking to her face to face and making it clear what I want (I've done this since she was little and she usually just turns her head). I try to get her to repeat what I've told her and the consequence I've lined out, but she will not repeat what I've said! I've also tried time out some, but it doesn't work every time, either. I come from a spanking family and everyone else spanks her to varying degrees of success. My mom does occassionally also do time outs (to much better success than I get out of it).

Does anyone have some other suggestions? Or am I maybe trying too many different things?