[AAMattB]

Understood. =)

[Ehitsham16]

if it goes by islamic law, he met her first and agreed to the marrage. in islamic law they are allowed 4 wives. Yes not here in America. The marrage there is only a religous one and not reconized in this country. It is with an emum and they are not reconized as clergy in America. So as far as this country is conserned he could have been married by his friend for all they know. Also if he is having relations with you he is not following islamic law anyway. Good Luck I say RUN find a good muslim man who follows his religion and you will have a good man and a good life!!

[ManjitK]

hi
im an sikh who understands the culture too well. marriage doesnt always start sweet but if he is a us citizen then he had rights to turn the marriage down. there are many ways to do it. i mean i am married to a scottish guy and that was my choice. my parents wanted to give me an arrange marriage and i said no.
my advice is dont waste your time on someone who doesnt run his own life. at the end of the day if the parents decided he was to get an arrange marriage then they could also get him to stay away from you. only heartache will come of this so dont get involved.
my advice as an indian but its up to you.

[ayeshamus14]

i doubt he really cares,have u known this man for only a week? and he claims he loves u? that says it all right there ><

[hajooora]

salaam aleykom...
my name is Hajar,and i am a muslim
this topic is quite funny cose i see the same mistake over and over again...ithis man,if he lied,he is not a good muslim,and if you hd sexual relationships with him,he is evan worst
a muslim man,1st of all he IS NOT ALLOWED to look at other women except his mother and his sisters...
2nd of all if he was already married when he meat you he wasn't allowed to look at you,talk to you and have a relationship with you without telling you that he is married
in Islam man meat women just TO MARRY
not for fun or to go clubbing or just dating...this is excluded

[momonline]

The Koran in no way justifies lying and cheating. What this man is doing is wrong, plain and simple. He is cheating on his wife and deceiving you as well. You deserve better.

[browneyes01]

it is hard to say what you should do becasue we are not in your situation. How do feel and what do you think you should do. I wouldn't say to abandon him just yet, things happen for a reason, and he could have married her so that he doesn't upset his family. How long are you willing to wait until you find out what he really wants is the question you should ask yourself.

[Samual]

You need to learn about Shi'a view of Aisha. When you live in a country where mutliple legal marriages are not allowed, you have a wife and partners instead if you wish.

[DealDebbie]

He'd have to be honest about wife and partners. He's just playing - sounds like trouble to me.

[browneyes01]

how are you doing today and how re feeling about the comments people have made. Does it make you feel any different about him. What do you think is going to come out of this relationship with him.