[sueswank]

ok im new here trying to find out some answers cause from what i can see pa sucks. im from ny born and raised moved to pa for only 6 mo cause i hated it down there. but long story short i met my husband while i was there and moved him and his son back to ny with me. for 3 yrs we paid child support on his daughter of $300.00 a mo. this last april his ex-wife regained custody of daughter from juvy hall. my husbands income has gone up $1.00 an hr and yet when his ex-wife went for support the more than doubled his support to $643.00 a mo. we tried fighting it as they used our taxes with my income. we just got a letter from lycoming courts yesterday saying we sent fake w2's. my w2's. so all was denied. we have a house payment , car payment reg payments (food,ins,elec ect.) and 2 children under 3 yrs old. his daughter is 18. his daughter has issues and recieves ssi wich is suposed to be taken off our support but wasnt. why when we were handed pa state guidelines where none of them followed. now my husband is looking at going to jail next mo because we cant afford almost $700.00 a mo. we send them money every other week mostly $50.00-$75.00 but were trying. and lovley lycoming county says its not good enough. im telling you i cant wait till this kid graduates in june.

[mcmama]

My sympathies, this certainly is not fair. Why do they think your w2s are faked? How could they tell?

June is not too far away. Then you get your life back. Sad it has to be this way. Unfair divorce laws really turn the duration of a child's childhood into a jail sentence for some parents.

I'm in NJ and receive child support pretty good. But I will be happy come june to never HAVE to report anything to my ex husband ever again, or put myself in a vulnerable position in the name of "cooperation".

[purelegance]

we go through the same thing with my husband's ex, only it's a different state. i don't have much time right now, but :

they cannot touch your income. get a lawyer.

[sueswank]

i guess all i can say is if he has to go to jail for how long can they keep him and if he goes do we still accumulate arrears or do they get wiped clean and is it a felony or misterminer?

[Alejandros Mommy]

One thing That I know is that since your not considered "mom" to his child your income cannot be touched...it is included in your family income and should never have been added to change the child sup payments...I agree with the pp. Get a lawyer...this is their fault not yours...which the laywer would love as if you have to go to court you could ask the state for your money back for your lawyer costs Good luck

[purelegance]

sorry about last night, it was past my bedtime. anyway, you DEFINITELY need a lawyer, we've learned the hard way. In child support cases when the parents are in 2 different states, and one parent cannot make the court date (as they're out of state), the courts will ALWAYS go against their laws and rule lucratively in their home-state parent's favor. (i know that was kind of long.. are you with me?). your husband should have a "case handler" for PA child support, typically as long as you're in close contact with the case handler (and they understand your situation) it's rare he'll be sent to jail. file a motion ASAP to modify your custody order. (which is what she did to get that child support raise). it's not going to be easy, and it'll certainly be time consuming, but it'll be worth it incredibly. afterall, this child is taking food off your children's plates. This order should be easy to reverse, as everything they did was basically illegal.

make sure you file something immediatly and get it solved ASAP. whatever debt is still there at the end of the year will come out of your tax refund and go straight to the exwife. which means you could end up with NO refund at all.

[sueswank]

ty we are learning the hard way. learned things we didnt even know like they used out tax refund as income.social services cant even touch u'r tax refund.

[purelegance]

social services can (and will) divert your refund check to her, but they can't count it as income.

[VinniesMommy]

I agree... Get a lawyer... I live in PA also, and the courts tried to screw us around too. When my DH tried to get visitation of his son, he was suppose to pay $600 every month. I don't have any income and we have 2 kids under 2... They were really unfair to us. Luckily, he talked to his ex and she lowered it, without us going to a lawyer. She brought hers to the hearing, and he didn't, so they kinda just shoved papers in his face and used lawyer talk... Even if you just get a free consultation... go to a couple different ones, get their opinions and you might not need to pay them ((the lawyers)) at all... Good luck!!

[sueswank]

ok just to let you all know my husband contacted domestic relations and tried to file an ammended (sp) to have the case re looked at. told them we had a lawyer . he was so told that there was nothing that could be done no refiling or anything cause the judge signed the order. so i assume that in pa a judge got his credidentials (sp) from the cracker jack box as a kid. eaven our lawyer said it was BS. but nothing we can do. so were letting my husband go to jail to wipe out his dues. maby something will happen to his ex-wife and we wont have to deal with her any more