[PamalaLauren]

My brother's gf (the insane one) looks to have had a misscarriage. I'm not totally sure but today I visited her myspace page and found that where it once said she was a proud parent it now says she doesn't want children. She's deleted my brother from her friends list as well. Her profile which once said she loved my brother and couldn't wait for the baby just has three works on it now which don't paint a great picture. They'd been warned that she could possibly miscarry due to a placenta abrubtion (it's called something different when you're as early in the pregnancy as she is/was, only 8 weeks). The chances of the baby making it was about 60% and I'm guessing it didn't take.

Now I feel bad for her and especially my brother because he was attached to say the least. Very excited. She wasn't as much as he was but I know how hard it is to lose a baby since I lost one in my first pregnancy. But on the other side of that saddness is relief. It's obvious that she's no longer dating my brother. They won't have to go through custody battles and a very crappy relationship (believe me this girl is very unstable and was homeless before she hooked up with my brother. Needless to say he doesn't have the best taste in women.) The child won't have to suffer through battles and conflicts and my brother won't be caught up in the kind of drama I thing would have ensued after the baby's birth.

Hopefully now he gets it and he doesn't just sleep around with any old girl. I hope he's more careful. I hope now that he does graduate from college (he should in May but was thinking of putting it off for the baby). I hope he's able to get a great job and then find a great woman to settle down with.

So this miscarriage comes with sadness and also happiness that a baby doesn't have to live in that drama and that my brother is free of this pyscho woman.

Is that bad of me? I want to call him or have my husband call him since we've been through it but we technically haven't been told about it in the first place so calling up and asking might seem a bit weird. I'll just relay to my step-dad that we're willing to talk to him if he needs to talk.

[Rissa812]

I believe that children choose their parents. I agree that this situation is for the best. I have gone through a custody battle with my daughter's father. The only one that suffers is the child. She should at least acknowledge her angel, and not act as though he/she did not exist. Then again, it may be her way of dealing with things. She may be hurt and devastated too.

[MissLnsy]

Well, this is coming from someone with 3 brothers....you could just call to "see how things are" and if he talks, then that is great. If he doesn't tell you right away then let him be. This is a very sad way for him to learn a lesson....I'm so sorry for the pain this has caused!

[QueenAngie]

Originally Posted by MissLnsy

Well, this is coming from someone with 3 brothers....you could just call to "see how things are" and if he talks, then that is great. If he doesn't tell you right away then let him be. This is a very sad way for him to learn a lesson....I'm so sorry for the pain this has caused!

I have to agree with MissLnsy, just call him up for a chit-chat. Don't bring it up. Encourage your brother to stay in college & graduate.

On the flip side of the coin, maybe this girl had a miscarriage, maybe she had a planned abortion. We do not know the details. Whatever occured, it is very sad.

Not everything on that site is 100% the truth.

[PamalaLauren]

Actually I found out after the fact that she had a abortion instead because my brother was breaking up with her because she was demanding too much from him. She wanted him to buy her a car and marry her so she didn't have to work. Kind of sad that the reaction to breaking up was to kill the child.

[Alejandros Mommy]

OM GOSH ! I can't belive she would stoop that low! Poor little thing...I hope that Karma kicks her in the butt! HugZ to your brother...I hope that he's better off without her

[kimchee67]

Originally Posted by PamalaLauren

Actually I found out after the fact that she had a abortion instead because my brother was breaking up with her because she was demanding too much from him. She wanted him to buy her a car and marry her so she didn't have to work. Kind of sad that the reaction to breaking up was to kill the child.

Do you think that it could have been a fake pregnancy all along, and that the "abortion" was to guilt your brother? Either way, it's a sad story.

[Carlysmom]

I feel sorry for your brother, but mostly i feel sorry for the baby that his ex g/f killed during her abortion. There are so many of us trying to bring babies into this world and then we have to hear about some girl who was luck enough to be carrying a life inside her and she gos and ends it. It makes me sick.
You say you feel it is for the better...Well let me tell you my experience. I became pregnant when I was 19 yrs old. My daughters dad was only 17. He was abusive to me physically and emotionally after she was born in 2001. We did get married. I had him arrested for abuse in 2003. I filed for divorce. We now have joint custody of her. I am getting re-married in 2 months. I just suffered a m/c a week ago. My fiance and I are going to go for full custody of my daughter (who is in Kindergarten) asap.
My daughter has been threw her own share of lifestyle changes. She has coped well. She has had several times cried her eyes out because she had to leave me to go to her dad. that WAS and is hard. BUT, she needs to have parenting time with both parents. We both love her so much. As well as our families and friends. My daughter is so loved and spoiled. No, she doesn't have both biological parents living together, but she has a great life.
Sometimes it doesn't work out with the parents, but at least that child has a chance at life. It is the parents job to make sure it is the best life they can give their child.
I feel sorry that that child never had a chance...no matter how psycho you say this girl is
~Michelle~

[PamalaLauren]

Originally Posted by kimchee67

Do you think that it could have been a fake pregnancy all along, and that the "abortion" was to guilt your brother? Either way, it's a sad story.

No about three or four weeks ago they went to the ER cause she had bleeding and heard the heartbeat and saw the baby. So it wasn't fake.

[kimchee67]

Originally Posted by PamalaLauren

No about three or four weeks ago they went to the ER cause she had bleeding and heard the heartbeat and saw the baby. So it wasn't fake.

I'm sorry to hear that. I guess in some way I was hoping that she wouldn't have done that to him. I am openly pro-choice, but that doesn't mean that killing a child out of spite is ok with me. That really sadens me. I'm sorry for your brother and for your family.