[nadia417]

Hello, all! I have a bit of an issue...
My husband is in the airforce and is currently on his second deployment overseas. I'm living on base (Vandenberg AFB, CA) with our 7month old daughter. My husband and I have been having some marital problems, but we're basically ok... I told him that I wanted to move back to our hometown (in Ohio) so that I can be near family. We have no one out here in CA, and I know that there are family support services, but I really think that it would be best if I just went back home. He's Security Forces and has very low self-esteem in the career department, so he doesn't know what he wants to do/what he can do after the military, but he knows that he doesn't want to stay in the military past the 6-year mark (which is coming up in 3 years). I've suggested that he should try going to college, but he's not interested. He's mentioned joining the Coast Guard, but if things don't go his way, he won't. I've finished 2 years of college, but I have no degree (I was undecided). What I would like to do is go back to Ohio and do a 2-year program to become a Physical Therapist's Assistant (a friend of mine did the same program and had a job right after she graduated and is making a decent income). It's at the college I've already attended...so I wouldn't have to transfer credits...and I'm already familiar with the campus. I feel that if I can do that, that will satisfy my urge to be contributing to bill-paying/expenses, and it will give my husband time to figure out what he would rather be doing besides being in the military.
The issue is this: I have to pack up our whole house and put it in storage. My brother has offered to come out to CA to help me drive back with my daughter and cat and whatever belongings will fit. He's a school teacher and will be off for about a week for spring break, so we have a limited amount of time. I've got checklists for moving out, and power of attorney to close the house, but I have no free time during the day. My daughter craves interaction, and I'm finding that I just can't get anything done. It's really frustrating and depressing because I'm not familiar with the area out here, and I have a million things to do. My brother's also offered to let me stay in his apartment with him and his wife (we've all lived together before, and it worked out fine...). Things will obviously be different now, since we're adding a baby to the mix.
Does anyone know if there's a way for us to keep the housing? I'm doubting there is, since no one would be here for 4 months...basically until he gets back from his deployment. I was trying to think about if I could get someone to do the yardwork...but if no one's here...that'd probably be a problem.
I know that the house would need to pass inspection...which may or may not be too difficult...our base is undergoing a massive reconstruction of new housing...and we live in old housing...so they may not be to picky about things...but I don't know...
I just wonder how I'm supposed to pack up a house, move stuff into storage (which my bro can help with...when he gets here...), pass inspection, and drive back across the country, with my daughter and cat....
I posted on the "deciding to divorce" forum...so there's some background about my situation in there...but basically, I'm thinking that this is the only way that I'm going to have any patience to deal with this marriage and way of life.