[purelegance]

this is kinda a vent, but i need advice too.

DH seems to think that because he's the one working, he doesn't need to help with DD if she's ever fussy. When i go somewhere (unless it's on the rare occasion my store calls me to work), she has to go with me, because she might turn out to be fussy. Last night Izzy would NOT go to stay asleep (i think she might be having night terrors?), so after 8 hours & me getting stressed, i asked DH to take her. He got mad because he "works 12 hour days and god forbid he sleeps on his day off." (and there's now a hole in the wall to prove it). I told him "too bad. you're a parent, this is apart of it." and reminded him if i was working full time, that i'd still be the one up with her! (not to mention, i have her 24 hrs a day, 7 days a week and he works 12 hours a day 5 days a week, who puts in more time?) I don't think she was up much longer after that, because he had warmed up a bag of milk, and hardely anything is missing from it. I came down at 6am, to find her knocked out in her swing. I took her back up to bed with me and left him on the couch. He's still not speaking to me. I'm half tempted to tell him if he's not going to help me then not even bother calling himself "dad". harsh i know, but i'm still angry. He's great any other time, but god forbid she be fussy.

how do i get him to realize that this is not 1954?