[burfield1mom]

Were not alone here! I've been reading books on this for months now. My poor husband looks like a dog that his master wouldn't walk. I have searched the internet for "woman's Viagra" it's not there ladies. There aren't even any clinical studies going on.
Currently I'm reading Turn Up the Heat: A Couples Guide to Sexual Intimacy by Dr. Kevin Leman. He knows were not alone, and is great reading. There are some references to biblical things but he also talks about wanting his wife to swing from the chandelier. So even if your not religious you would still really enjoy this book. He does sate in there that 2/3 of women feel the same way we do. We are not the minority we are the majority.
Like I said I've been feeling this way for almost 5 years now. Two years ago I decided to get off of birth control because I felt like that had a lot to do with my feeling. I did however go and have an IUD implanted and it's good for 5 years.

[Magic_Mikki]

So I have a slight update. Nothing fabulous, but perhaps there is light at the end of the tunnel! Anyway, so I was on Zoloft for a month, and since my sex drive was already zero, I didn't notice a difference in the one short month. But I switched to Wellbutrin (which can actually increase sex drive, and the doc confirmed this). I started that today. Today I also made an appointment with a behavioral health therapist. My first appointment is in May, and I am insisting on going at LEAST once a week for a few months. I need that. Anything less won't cut it, and I know this. I decided that I need to take care of myself before I can take care of my sex life/marriage. So I'm really excited about that! I also purchased the book "A Sex-Starved Marriage" (don't remember the author off the top of my head, and book is not near by! But I will come back and post the author too, in case anyone else is interested!) Houston88 PMed my about this thread and suggested the Wellbutrin switch as well as the book! So thank you sooo much for that, Houston88! I haven't started the book quite yet, even though I bought it last week, but I'll let you all know my thoughts on it!

So obviously there is no "overnight change" in this area, but I'm finally taking the steps to getting this sorted out! I wouldn't have done it without all of you! I have been thinking that something needs to be done for a couple of years now, and it wasn't until I wrote to you guys for help that I actually took action! So thanks everyone!

[browneyes01]

talk to your husband and ket him know how you are feeling so at least he doesn't think it is him. Sorry to say but men also get insecure about things like this so could you imagine how he must feel to know that ou don't want to have sex with him. And maybe it could very wekk be the medication you are on, should get that checked out. Snd really consider going to a sex therapist, because believe it or not sex is a big part of relationships.

[jkvkdailey]

Michelle

Thank you for starting a thread that I would have never had the courage to do. I am in the same boat as you, but without the meds. I haven't had a sex drive in years, and we go for months without it. Luckily my husband is VERY understanding, but it does cause arguments from time to time. I am too ashamed to tell my doctor about it (yet I'll post for millions to read??), so for now we will continue as-is. Now and again I will have an overwhelming desire to please my husband (but not the desire for the physical act), and thankfully it is enough for him at this point.

I wish you luck - and look forward to hearing updates from your therapy sessions.

Kim

[MaMaMuDa]

i agree with lavatea.. am using birth control and my sex drive is almost non-existant. plus, my hormones are going upside down.