[hiunikel]

hellow there i'm new on this forum...

actualy i'm infected with AUTISM that ill which i have think and for along time that it belongs to me alone ..but i’m quite comfortable that there are people shares me that pain ....autism impressiv on my caracter and personalty that i cant stand the presence of people around me even my parents, i eat alone .. and i stay alone most of the time

i’m 22 years old and man, i feel depressed when i think in the future …no woman can accept me this way … i fear i can’t marry …i cant even get job , last year i was in the army ..and i couldn’t stand it ..so i left it ..even i pass most of my time silent , sometimes Absentminded …

to islolate yourself means you are strange ..that’s a fact

sometimes i wish i’m dead … i feel this life wasn’t created for me !!!

any way i wish someone can help me to recover & i wan’t to know people infected by autism ..

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[mcmama]

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I don't know that you can recover from autism, but people I know who are living successful adult lives with it on their own have made adjustments in how they do things, and also are real in their expectations. I cannot imagine how terrible it would be for an autistic person to be in the army. Just a lot of stuff coming at you.

I know one autistic person who is a dog trainer, and another who works in the technical field. They do not live solitary lives, but they find they are most comfortable when they are alone, and need time each day to be that way.

Anyway, welcome!!

[QueenAngie]

Welcome to the board!

There are many individuals with Autism that are still able
to have productive jobs. Need to find something that interests
you and you feel comfortable doing.

Since you prefer to do things alone, not in groups,
and quietly. Maybe you could start by volunteering
like in a library or a museum.

[hiunikel]

sometimes the Circumstances pushes the one to make decisions even if he hates it
then ..concerning my life i feel comfortable alone ....but i'm worried about the future ..when i'll get maried ..i fear my wife will be a miserable ..i fear i cannot make her happy
any way
thank you MCMAMA
HAVE A NICE DAY
BYE

[QueenAngie]

Are you going to have an arranged marriage?

[hiunikel]

not yet ...but i haven't tell her that i got that kind of syndrom
maybe i'll be married next year if the realtions between us stays cool
i wish that...but i think she has to know how i'm

[pamperedpeterson]

Welcome to Families!
I think it's great that you want to get married! What a great way to spend a life with someone. But honesty is the best option. If she can't love you for you then it's best to find that out now, not months or even years down the road. It will be best for you and her.
Do you have a job? Do you go to counseling of any sort? If you are making an effort to make progress, I think she would see this as a good thing.

[floridamama]

Hi,
There are a lot of people on the autism spectrum that are married, work, and are living their lives to the fullest. If you are depressed...you should tell your pyschologist about it, so that they may help you. Do you have a doctor that you see for your autism? How long have you known that you have this? I get the impression that maybe you just found out. Please find a doctor that can help you figure this all out...so that you'll be better equipped to understand it.
Good luck, I wish you the best!

[hiunikel]

Originally Posted by floridamama

Hi,
There are a lot of people on the autism spectrum that are married, work, and are living their lives to the fullest. If you are depressed...you should tell your pyschologist about it, so that they may help you. Do you have a doctor that you see for your autism? How long have you known that you have this? I get the impression that maybe you just found out. Please find a doctor that can help you figure this all out...so that you'll be better equipped to understand it.
Good luck, I wish you the best!

actualy ... i have discovred that when i was a teen but i didn't believe i had many crises ...then i thought it was the real reason for my psychological state
in my childhooh ..may father was working in the army and we were living in the countryside ..my family thought that i was just a complicated person ..but when we moved to the city ..at school i realised how i was diffirent and "closed on myself"
with time i realised ..that i have a psychological knots ..but i knew later that it was AUTISM
thank you so much floridamama