[bkmixed]

Hey all. Obviously new to the site. I've read through a couple threads that wander close to my situation, but was hoping to get more insight. I'm barely 20, in a relationship for 2 years. He obviously loves me, but I'm starting to lose attraction. This has been going on for a couple of months. He's the only guy I've been with, I actually met him first week of college. I'm feeling frustrated at this point because I feel as if I'm being boxed in. He's jealous and has OCD, so communication, especially about our relationship, is never easy and I have to always choose my words carefully. His OCD is paired with paranoia, and he's become dependent on me loving him in return and always staying with him. If I try and talk to him, the first words out of his mouth are usually along the lines of "You're not going to leave me are you?". In the beginning I made him feel safe, but now tohse words only make me feel more tied down. Our fights are usually over things that are incredibly small or insignificant, and he doesn't take care of himself as well as I wish he would. Lately, I've been fantasizing about another man, and to be honest, am having trouble holding the flirt in. I feel that I went from my parent's house to living with someone else without having any time in between to explore, grow into myself, learn what I like, what I don't, and to just experience. But I don't want to hurt his feelings, he's a great guy....
Any advice?

[MissyChrissy]

Whenever a relationship ends there will be hurt feelings. The sooner you can accept that, I think you know what the "right" decision is for you. Don't prolong the agony. You cannot "save" him...your leaving may be the boot in his butt he needs to get some serious help & work on his issues so he can eventually have a healthy relationship with someone.

[QueenAngie]

Welcome to the board, Bkmixed!

I have to agree with MissyChrissy.

Relationships are difficult sometimes.

Sounds like this is your first real boyfriend and
that the two of you live together.
And that you are in college.

Boyfriend has OC/DC, paranoia, and mental health issues.
Is he getting counseling and taking his medications?

If you are having doubts, now is the time to sort out your true feelings.

Are you better with him
or
without him?

Best to do this prior to getting married and having children.

Let us know what you decide.

(((Hugs)))