Hi, I wondering what your family does for betime during summer vacation?
I am living my first summer with my stepkids (12, 14). I get up for work at 6:00 AM with my partner. He then works from home going to meetings a few times a week and I have a 12 hour day including commute.
Today we get the kids (every other week). It is the beginning of the summer holidays for them. My partner says they go to bed when they want during the summer. Normally betimes are 9:30 and 10:30 respectively.
I am concerned that we are then open to them going to bed after us and the tv etc keeping us up. I also would like time to unwind in our tiny townhouse without kids around. My bedroom doubles as the office so that is far from a sancturary.
Please let me know what the rules are for kids during summer vacation.
Well my son is still a little young for a bed time, but I remember from when I was a kid that bed time was whenever the sun went down - around 9 o'clock or so depending on how late in the summer it was. It worked out well since the sun sets earlier and earlier as school approaches, meaning you don't have to fight over earlier bed times once school starts.
Well first off it is not a WE situation. These are your husbands kids not yours . So why don't you let their FATHER and MOTHER decide when THEIR children go to bed. Unless you where in the room when the FATHER and MOTHER had sex and created these children than you have no say over them.
Know your place.... In regards to these children all you are is their fathers bedwarmer and thats all you will ever be to them
I have a 14 and 16 year old also on summer vacation. While I do loosen expectations around bedtime during the summer, I do try to keep it reasonable. Unless they are at a sleepover or some special event, there is a set time by which they are in bed. I don't mind if its a little later than usual during vacation, but I think it's important to stick to some sort of a routine during the off months.
I think at this age, it's also okay to let kids know there are behavior expectations regarding your privacy and sleep schedule.
I would say talk to your hubby about the kids and if your worried you wont get a good nights sleep if their staying up late, then maybe you both can come up with a bed time that's right for everyone. I let my kids stay up late in the summer and then a few weeks before school starts I start making them go to bed early so they can get used to it. But I figure that the hole fun part about being a kid and it's summer time. Of course I don't have to go to work eaither. So Talk to your husband and make shore you two are on the same page. It's your home also, and you should not feel like a starnger when his kids are around. Granted he does have most say, they should have to respect both of you.
My son from a previous marriage is 16. He is now staying with us full time. What we did is write down all the rules of the house, including what happens after we go to bed and everyone signed it. I get up for work at 6am and one of the cardinal sins is to wake me up in the middle of the night. He is allowed to stay up after us, but he knows there are consequences is he wakes us up.
When I was younger we had a set time that we went up stairs to our rooms. That didn't mean we had to go to sleep we just had to be quiet and let the adults have their alone child free time.
I think that since it is your house too you have every right to expect people to follow clearly placed rules. Maybe you and your husband can come up with a deal that the children can watch television until say 9 and then they can go and hang out in their bedrooms until they want to sleep.
This way they still get to do the teenager thing but you and your husband won't be kept up too late.
Good luck!
Thanks for all the good ideas. I am happy to know that there are other families out there that are trying with love and patience to create a happy household for all people living there, whether they are blood relations or not.
I think it is a good idea to let your kids go to sleep later on holidays and summer vacation. If they don't have anything to get up and do the next day, it's not a big deal. Also, they will see that there is nothing great about staying up late.
Bedtime during summer holidays?
. So why don't you let their FATHER and MOTHER decide when THEIR children go to bed. Unless you where in the room when the FATHER and MOTHER had sex and created these children than you have no say over them. 
summer bedtime
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