[mcmama]

Anyone postponing TTC because of money?

What do you think of this?

[ljb]

We are

[wanttobemommy]

not us. It takes us so long to actually have a viable pregnancy that we will not stop trying until we are preggers with a keeper. Yes money is going to be tight but we know how to make things work. For some reason we have always found a way to make things work so we will continue to TTC

[sneakers1234]

Bet more babies are a coming!! more men home with time on their hands.

[LeanyBean]

I'm with sneakers here. I believe there will be a rise in births. When unemployed and you're home without nothing else to do . . . . . . . . . .
For the most part it's men that say finances are the reason behind not wanting kids or not wanting more kids but they are still cheap enough to not want to buy condoms and let's face it even with birth control people end up being parents.

I would love to fill up my house further with another baby or two (Hubby's job is currently one week on 2-3 weeks off and repeat.) but unless I can get the hubby on board for that and we both have reversal surguries or an intense IVF procedure that is not happening.

[ruthann8]

We may postpone. We hadn't really decided if we wanted them 2 or 3 years apart. We thought about trying in May but we will wait to see if things get better or worse. My dh is currently on 28-32 hour work weeks. They are only working Mon-Thurs. It is a huge difference and I had always wanted to be a SAHM but it just hasn't worked out yet. They have been laying off too many people at his company that it would be too risky for my to quit, mainly b/c of health insurance. My dh's type 1 diabetes cost a mint to manage the best he can, I want him to live forever But if things don't get better then they will be 3 years apart.

Years ago when I was young I had a life plan and part of it was to have babies when I was 28, 32, & 36. But recently I decided I want them closer together. Sometimes I laugh at my "life plan" What was I thinking!

And to top it all off, I would LOVE to sell our house and move closer to family! But I doubt that will happen anytime soon. The economy sucks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Samual]

The reason we are stopping at three is because we cannot afford to either extend our current house or upgrade to a five bedroom house where we live. If we had extended when Mikey was still a baby, due to building costs them, we would of been able to extend(it costs us more due to our house being a grade listed building)., but now stone masons are charging alot more as are blacksmiths, so no can do.
It is really selfish to bring a child into your family if you cannot provide for them, there are few things I find worse then people who bring a child into the world and then that child is either raised on benefits or living in a house without a penny to spare.

[mcmama]

I think the question for adoptive parents is one thing, and the question for TTCers is another. Waiting out the economy might mean waiting out your chances for a healthy baby and a healthy mom. (speaking as one who gave birth at age 30 and 35, and whose mom was 40 when she STARTED her family)

My ex used to say we needed to wait for an iron clad financial plan.....I needed to prove to him that we could afford two college educations....if only I would crunch the numbers.....bottom line was, I was getting older, and he wasn't willing to wear condoms (considering the rest of my story, that alone is pretty awful) and I convinced him that having a second wouldn't be terrible. And it wasn't. It was great.

The thing is, you cannot predict for all the things that will come your way - all the ways life changes, all the decisions you make later. And you know what? Families survive.

The youngest boy is in the Coast Guard Academy. Tuition is free. So just think if he had never been born because we "couldn't afford two college educations". YOu just never know.

I'd hold off on adopting, but if the baby clock were ticking and there was a TTC problem....you take what you get when it comes.

[Samual]

Adoption is age restricted, just like fertility, I'm not allowed to adopt again after I hit 35.

[wanna be a young mother]

Dh was a little worried about us TTC again. After his raise it hasn't been an issue. I think that the only thing that would stop us from TTC would be serious fertility treatments again. It would take us awhile to come up with the $5,000+ needed for an FET cycle. We have thought about using our income tax money but that is usually our "pay off the xmas credit card" money . Since we didn't use credit cards for xmas this year I have no idea what we will use the money for. I see my REI on 1/27. So we will see what he thinks I should do. I hope to keep trying on my own. At least until Nevy's 2nd birthday. I know a lot of people putting off kids right now but on the other hand I know a few that are set and will keep trying to get pregnant. I guess it just depends on the couple.