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I do no think things are so much boys vs. girls, as much as it is personality. and place in line at birth. My 15 yo daughter has almost always been easy. We talk about everything. Her friends for the most part have grown away from their families, and that is hard on my daughter. But she says that she thinks they do not have close relationships because their parents are too busy. I have been so blessed in many ways and one of them is we have lived in this house 14 years. She has gone to school with most of her friends her whole school life.
My son 14 is a whole different world. I have to stop and think , boy... I am dealing with a boy. He and I talk too. He is not as informational as I would like. So I have to really be sure to ask questions. He is a reader, and has a great personality. He has many friends, and is well known by having great conversations. I do no think he holds information back from me. He just does not think it is important. He kisses me good bye when he goes to school, not once has flinched. He holds my hand or arm in stores. He is not clingy, but he does not have a problem behaving this way with me, because I have never said it should be a problem. I think as parents we unconsciously steer our children to do things.
Watching the parents of the children that go to my children's schools over the years has been so insightful for me. The ones that predicted their children would grow up to be; raging teenagers, trouble makers, good students, bad students, for the most part their predictions have came true. I have heard too many times from both children's friends parents, They are letting them be responsible adults. You do not, in my opinion, drop them in a pond. You stay around and talk about things. You can not talk about things if you have not talked to them from day one. Well, you probably can, but it will take time.
My children are allowed to make their own decisions about many things. Sometimes I agree, sometimes I do not. Sometimes I have to say, no I am not letting you make this mistake. I have been wrong, and we talk about that possibility.
At 14, my son is going through puberty. I think it is like PMS, except it can happen in the blink of an eye. Keeping him active is what keeps things in check. If I see him getting a little out of line, I have him go take a run, swim, or get on our elliptical. That seems to be a cure all.
Sorry this is long. I am baby sitting and he is taking a nap. Just got to thanking. Thank you all for sharing your stories, and good luck with your sons, and daughters. Just remember, they do not stop hugging, etc. unless you do.
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My friends and I did. I'm sure a group of teenage girls having belching and farting contests was quite a sight to behold but we didn't care. We were enjoying ourselves and each other's company.
Noah truly believed I had eyes in the back of my head. Ridley is the one that shows no emotion and I usually am the only one who can get him talking. Charlie has the most curious nature and is into everything all the time. So far Gabe is easy but then again he's only 3 weeks old.
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