Brother-in-law driving me bananas!! (the novel...)
Hello all! 1st post, and I'm hoping for some advice or insight to a situation in my life that I'd like to improve...
In the 5 years I've known him, he's always sleeping on friends couches and relying on others to support him. He's spent more time unemployed than employed, and when he does have a job, he's consistently late, constantly calling out or asking to go home early. Which has gotten him fired from every job... The worst part of it, is he had a son last fall and he doesn't see any more reason to work. Because he doesn't have any income, he's always asking for things. 'Could I bum a cigarette/piece of pizza/gum/soda?' 'Could you give me a ride for this or that?' And when he does have money he spends it on ridiculous things like a laptop, or a new phone.
It's getting to the point where it's no fun seeing him because he always has his hand out, or is complaining about how rough his life is. I just want to scream, "Really, *insert brother-in-laws name here*?? REALLY? Because if you would have paid your rent, you wouldn't be homeless. If you would have registered and inspected your car, you wouldn't have ultimately lost your license. If you would have shown up to work, you wouldn't have been fired..." I could go on and on...We've limited our time w/him to a few hours a week, but it still irks me that even in the small amount of time we have w/him, he's still asking for things. It's like a really annoying game. "What will he ask me for, and how can I say no?"
Does anyone have any insight, or advice for a situation like this? I'm at the point where I'd like to tell him if he doesn't clean up his act, to loose my number, and let his brother (my husband) deal with him on his own time and not in our home!!
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