[joe1111]

Communication is very important in marriage. It is important for spouse to share their thoughts, feelings and be sensitive to each other's needs. The main cause for breakup in communication is usually a lack of understanding between the male and female talk styles.

Maintaining friendship in marriage is something that cannot be over-emphasized. Friendship binds a couple together and makes them comfortable with each other. It is cultivated when they talk and listen to each other.

When communication in any relationship breaks down, the very cords that hold the relationship together start to unravel. Many marriages have ended up in divorce not because of the enormity of what took place between the two people involved, but because they just could not engage in effective communication.

When negative emotions like malice, un-forgiveness, bitterness etc. find a place in our homes; they open the door for the devil to come in. When we have misunderstandings, we must overcome offenses so that they don't result to malice.

There are two sentences that have proved highly effective in abating anger and quarrels; they are "I am sorry" and "forgive me". The more couples use these words when fiction occurs in their relationship, the more they will experience peace and harmony in their affairs.

One of the major factors why marriages fail is that most couples do not understand themselves. Men and women react differently when they are faced with challenges and except we learn how the opposite sex thinks and reacts, we remain incapable of understanding each other fully and hence do not understand any chance of having a successful relationship.

Every woman must learn to praise her husband when ever he his running through trough troubles, as this re-establishes his self-esteem. Encouraging phrased like "I believe in you", "you can make it" and other faith-filled words will go a long way in inspiring such men especially when the words come from their wives.

Hence, i encourage every woman and men alike to draw close to God if you wish to experience bliss not only in their marriage, but also in their individual lives. In order to have a good marriage, you need God and you need communication.

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[mcmama]

Joe, you are welcome to post the link to your blog in your signature. Please create your signature going to UserCP and find Edit your signature on the left panel.

We are happy to have you join our discussions. Please understand that anything you post here is copyright families.com, so don't copy paste from your own blog. We also ask members with blogs to not make posts inviting people to look at their blog (which you did not do with this post, thank you)

Personally, I have a bit of trouble understanding the title of your post - because communication in a marriage is not a weapon, it is a tool. Also you are telling women what they need to "learn" but not instructing men what they need to do as well. Not likely to go over well on this board.

I'm divorced from a guy who always blamed me for not "understanding men" and I got that awful Mars Venus book shoved at me a lot with lectures. Guess what. My ex husband was gay, and really did not like women at all. So there was nothing I could do to improve my communication, but yet I took all the blame. This is common with abusers. There are a number of abused women on this board. Perhaps you would like to know what they have learned.

[AmyasRichard]

When communication in any relationship breaks down, the very cords that hold the relationship together start to unravel. Many marriages have ended up in divorce not because of the enormity of what took place between the two people involved, but because they just could not engage in effective communication.