[daniandbebe08]

DH and I have been talking about having another baby for a few months now... We finally set a date when we are going to start trying and getting everything ready for it. But now he is thinking that it might be too early. He asked me to ask you ladies if its a good thing to start trying next month when Lucas is 10 months old. they would be about 20 months apart which is close enough to 2 years, I mean I dont want them exactly 2 years apart! But hes getting doubts now. Honestly, its nothing that he has to worry about much but make the money, he hardly does anything with Lucas so I would be used to providing most of my time to our children. I am ready to take on the challanges of haveing 2 kids around and would much rather have the 2 early...

The other day when he was telling me that he has doubts he told me to go to the Dr to make sure its OK to start trying again while Im on my "HAPPY" pills... So I went to the drs. and he told me that since I am feeling WAY better with PPD I can now start taking a lower dosage and take prenatal vitamins and get on the prowl So DH told me that its good that I got the heads up from the dr...

But what Im confused about... Why would he tell me to go to the drs if he is having doubts? Is he just scared in having 2 kids so soon?

[angelic_ky]

really Dani the only ppl that can tell you if it's a good idea to start again is you and DH... personally i would wait til i was completely off the meds but that could take some time... perhaps you should discuss with DH about what his doubts are

[LovingJesusinAZ]

I went off the "happy" pills before I conceived DS and I would recommend the same for you. Even the "safe" ones are proving not to be as "safe" as was thought.

As far as being ready . . . I agree with the above poster . . . only you and DH can make that decision.

Our original plan was to start trying when DS turned 1. Well . . . as his b'day approached in August I realized I wasn't ready so I put it off. The "revised" plan became "After the 1st of the year", which would make them about 25-26 months. Long story short, I'm currently late so if I am pg right now my due date would be 8 days after DS' 2nd b'day

[Kats Playland]

I agree with the other ladies... It's up to you and your DH and no one else. But I would sit down and talk to him and see what his doubts are. It's better to clear the air and get everything out on the table. Good luck and hope you get a bfp very soon in the future.

[poliscmjr]

I agree...it is up to the 2 of you to decide when to have another child. Just keep in mind you might not get pregnant the first month trying. That might help dh to see that starting now to try is ok...b/c it might take a few months to get it perfect!

Remember practice makes perfect!!!

[daniandbebe08]

DH and I have talked about it for a while now... And weve agreed to start trying Jan 2008. I beleive it was in October when we agreed to this and I went and bought a bunch of pregnancy tests on Ebay and split them with a friend of mine who is currently trying as well. But now that the month is getting closer hes having doubts... I beleive the doubts are because we only have a 2 bedroom house and we are planning to fix it up and sell it. Hes worried about all the chemicals in everything that involves renovating a house would harm me in my pregnancy, but Ive already told him that I would just stay with my parents or his parents for a while anyway because I wouldnt want Lucas around that stuff.

The house market here is booming because of a plant wanting to upgrade(where DH works) and it would mean more work here for 5 years. We bought our house cheap and within the 2 years that weve lived here its already gone up LOTS! We found a home already, but I doubt that we would actualy move into it right now. Its too soon for us as we still have to fix up this house a bit. And like I said, houses are booming, and they are actually only on the market for a week or two now

[dhilbert]

only you 2 know when you a "ready" and i use that term lightly cus if everyone waited till the "perfect" time to have kids we would never have any, you can never afford more you just make it work, most of the time you dont have room for more but you figure that out too, the only thing that is already ready for more is the love in your heart for your children, which by the way there is enough hiding to love the next as much as the first, and there is enough time, though we think we have no time left with the kids we have, we make the time!