Consumed with Fury at my Sister
I'm sorry this is so long..but I really need some advice!!
I have been robbed..by my own sister! Almost 6 months ago, I decided that due to financial and dental reasons, I had to sell the only vehicle I had. Not only was it my only vehicle, but it was the only thing I had that was worth any money at all.
Well, my sister and her boyfriend asked if they could buy it and promised to make payments on it and pay it off quickly. They knew I was selling it because I was in almost constant pain and illness from dental issues, but also because I needed what was left of the money to start a new life elsewhere. I had been having a very difficult time where I was, emotionally and otherwise. On good faith (she is my sister after all), I agreed..and they came and took it without hesitation.
Long story short..they never paid me one thin dime. Then the pickup got wrecked and my sister also took the insurance money and spent it elsewhere.
Now, the vehicle is wrecked, has even more miles on it than it did to begin with, and I couldn't sell it to anyone else now if my life depended on it..except for maybe scrap metal.
Now, I have no money, and no vehicle. They now have 4 vehicles! She conned a little old lady out of an almost brand new car..title and all, and has paid the poor old lady maybe (and that's a big maybe!) $200. I had moved to another state..a place I really wanted to be very badly. I begged my sister before I left for weeks to give me at least PART of the money they owed me..not only did she not give me anything, but she didn't apologize or say a word to me about it at all. Because they didn't give me any money, I had to return from where I had moved to because I didn't have enough time to look for a job with the available cash I had. I have also had to have 3 of my teeth pulled, because I didn't have the money to fix them. That was what selling that truck was for.
All the while I have been waiting and begging her to pay me something, she buys between $200 & $350+ of Lottery tickets every month, buys food from the Schwans truck..while going to church's to beg for food and assistance. They have allowed a couple of juvenile delinquents to move into their home, using them as an excuse to beg saying they have no where else to go, both of whom in fact really could make other arrangements.
Several times when I have tried to talk to her about it, she has either gotten very ugly with me..she actually told me how selfish I was in one letter, or has just ignored me altogether.
I am just consumed with fury at her. When I had to leave my new home and my new life, it was just the last straw. That and knowing how they spend their money so frivolously, knowing they owe me and also begging for assistance, when they make more between the two of them than anyone else in my immediate family. She also wrote an email to one of MY friends..begging for money. I've heard she's contacting all the talk show hosts, begging for money..THAT THEY DONT NEED!
There is a part of me that just wants to sign the title over to that now piece of garbage pickup..telling her that I hope it was worth the price she paid for it..because the price is infinitely more than $2500. Others tell me no..just reposses it, but doing that I will just end up selling it for scrap and not getting any money out of it anyway. The expense of doing that will negate any gain.
Frankly, I never want to see or speak to her again..EVER. I am so consumed with anger at her, that it's difficult right now to think of much else than what she has done to me..and how callously she has done it..and every time I do manage to think of something else, her name comes up and nearly sets me on FIRE. I don't know if I have the capacity to EVER forgive her for this. This is only the last, albeit the worst, thing she has pulled over the last decade. You just cannot imagine the rage!
On top of everything else, my dad says I should just give her a big hug and forgive her for all..and makes me out to be the bad person when I try to tell him that I don't think I can do that!!!
What am I supposed to do about this mess? And how can I deal with the associated anger, well, more like FURY???
What would you do if you were me????????
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