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Hi,
I am new to families.com but I just have to share this parenting idea I had. My two year old son is a true nightmare! He does not listen, in fact he does the opposite of what he is told. Disciplining him was impossible!! Spanking didnt work, taking away toys didnt work, and time-out especially didnt work due to the fact I couldnt get him to stay in time-out, well, that was before I had my idea!! Now I use a 5 point harness car seat as a time-out chair. When my son is bad, I put him in the carseat and buckle him so he cannot get out. I know some may find this cruel, but I believe its better than raising a out of control child, which he was definately becoming! Anyway you just put the car seat wherever you choose, and you dont need to tether it down or anything because the toddler is unable to move it even in his attempts to struggle out of it. I leave him in there for about 2-3 minutes. He screams and struggles. But then begins to calm down. At that point I get on my knees at eye level and tell him what he did wrong to be placed in the time-out seat and that he needs to listen to his mommy and daddy, and apologize. He will mummble out a "im sorry mommy" in between sobs, then I unbuckle him and give him a hug and tell him I love him and thats it. He goes about his business, and I mine. But it has truly worked like a dream!! He hates to go in the "bad boy chair" so when threatened with the punishment, he 9 times out of 10 stops the misbehavior. This is so much better than the 1 out of 10 successes I had with all the other strategies. So try it, it will work for you too. The great part is they cant get out, they cant hurt them selves by struggling and throwing thier tantrums, they cant throw, kick, or break things, and they are at the perfect level for you to get down on your knees and tell them why they are being punished, with out them running away or ignoring you. You are right in thier face. I t truly has been the only thing that has worked for our family. His behavior was making everyone miserable, especially the fact that I didnt know how to stop it when nothing seemed to work. When this thought came to mind, It had to be from above because I was at the end of my robe and prayed for help. Please let me know what you think, and if you try it let me know the results you got. Thank you for reading this thread, and I hope it is some help in disciplining your toddler.