[tulipkiya]

It really depends upon how it is applied.!!
I have never backhanded or beat any of my children,
but they have received a spanking or two.
I will not spank my child in anger either.
Most of the time I prefer a "time-out" or other method.!!

[SarahLM]

I dont believe in smacking, i just feel thats showing them its ok to hit someone.

[Dadaji]

Or you can always get creative. In this movie the father doesn't get along with his adult daughter. He decides he's got to drive her up the wall before she'll listen to him! Played at some family film festivals in the age 7 & up group, your kids might like it.

www.DadaJiMovie.com

[whenrainhurts]

As an adoptive mother to two neglected and possibly abused Russian toddlers, I too vowed never to spank. But sometimes, rarely, my husband and I do. Sometimes it is the only way to get through to our son, who has FAS. We've tried and continue to try EVERYTHING - he seems to have no currency, literally, or at least not any that lasts more than a day or two. But the spankings he remembers.

Please see my blog if you're interested: http://whenrainhurts.wordpress.com

[gitrokr]

I do not believe in physical repercussions to a child. For parenting tips on how to get your child to behave if you have unruly kids you can find more information at Parenting Potential

[slee15]

I used other methods like time out and taking away tv or computer time for the most part or distracting a very young child, but when a child is being openly rebellious, sometimes a little applied psychology applied to the right area can work miracles on the attitude. My daughter has been spanked 3 times in her life and she can tell you what every one of them was for.

[c17ross07]

I think it's alright to discipline the child in this way...Hurting him won't put him in danger, in fact it may lead him to realizations.Just make sure after that you will explain to him why you have to do it to him.

[only_you]

I'm anti spanking

[slee15]

No caring parent here is advocating emotional or physical abuse and certainly the goal of discipline of any sort is to teach self discipline. Part of self discipline is learning that there are boundries in this life. If you work you discipline yourself because you know that if you don't the consequences are painful. Spanking is no more battering or beating a child than "Time Out" is locking a child in a dark closet for 8 hrs, or explaining is calling him a "f-----g little b-----d !" as I hear all too frequently.

To me it is so much better to swat a 3 y/o's backside the first time he heads for the pool without permission than to live the agony of watching us in ER try frantically and unsuccessfully to resusitate him after he has climbed the fence and fallen in.

All too many parents equate no spanking with no discipline. Taking away priviledges works fine for a 10 y/o game addict but a 3y/o does not have the reasoning power to remember mommies long winded explanation of why he is to not go in that pretty, cool blue water and sitting in a chair for 3 minutes is not sufficient deterent to discapline themselves. Spanking shouldn't be about anger but it certainly should be included as a way to keep our children safe and emotionally healthy.

I have raised 6 and everyone of them will tell you today that they are glad they grew up knowing from day 1 that there are simply some things you cannot do. That is as much the basis of self discipline as any lecture parents can give

As for the humiliation of the child, the rule I had was as public as you committed the offence, that is how public the response is going to be. If the 5y/o steals a candy bar in the checkout line then he is going to march back in that store and return it to the manager in front of God and countrymen, if he is humiliated then so be it. Maybe next time he is tempted the thought of repeating that experience is a pretty good deterient. But at 2 y/o he doesn't know what stealing is and a quick swat on the hand gets the idea across that "No we do not take things that do not belong to us" much better than Mommy taking him aside and giving him a lecture.
You can't let him get away with it at 2,3,5,and 8 and then think suddenly at 15 he is going to have aquired the "self-discipline' to stop taking things that don't belong to him and by then it is called burglery and shop lifiting.

[menshealth99]

We did spank with our first child. But, one time I did spank her when she was acting out and it made her cry in a way that I knew the punishment was not right. From that point on we stopped spanking. The kids may get a swat on the tush when they push too far, but usually get time outs.