[clare792000]

I lost my baby at 9 weeks on tuesday, 3 days ago. I only knew i was pregnant for just over a week, it was a shock as I was on the pill, but i was so happy, hubby was coming round too. I was hoping for a little sister for my two boys. But i just cant beleive the way i feel, alone, even with so many people around me, lost, empty, guilty, angry, i feel like i will never stop feeling like this or ever be bale to stop crying. What makes it worse is when they scanned me the sac is still there so i have to wait a week for another scan to see if it passes. But they didnt tell me what to expect, should i expect to bleed more? more pain? whats normal whats not? Theres no one to talk to or to ask these questions to, and i feel like until i get the scan i cant even try to get my head round it and relax, how will i get through the next week?

[landj111]

I'm sorry your going through this ((((((HUGS))))))). Speaking from experience it does get easier to deal with. The cramping and bleeding all depends on your body. With both of my m/c's the severe cramping only lasted a couple of hours if that. The bleeding was different with both the first one I had spotting the night before and alot when it happend and lasted for 4-5 days. the 2nd I started spotting a week before I m/c'ed and lasted for 9 days after. If you start getting a fever or your soaking through pads then I would call your doc or go to the E.R. Did your doctor give you any pain meds or something to help you relax? All those feelings your having is completly normal and will eventually fade.

[quagmire8]

so sorry for your loss. the pain gets easier to deal with as time goes on. it will always hurt, but it gets better. as far as the physical aspect, everybody is different. i started with light pink spotting, blood work confirmed the m/c, and three days after the spotting began came the cramping and heavier bleeding. it is similar to a period, just a litter heavier. it is ok to be angry and to grieve your loss. again, so sorry for what you are going through. (((hugs)))

[KR258]

I can't tell you what to expect because I gave birth to my boy at 21 weeks but I can tell you that it does get easier. For me it took 5 months to feel even a tiny bit better (emotionally). After 5 months I started to think about the future again which is something I had never thought I could do. It's been 7 months and 1 day Now we're trying for another one. I know that right now it probably seems like the world has stopped and for me it was really hard to see other people moving on so quickly. The day after I lost my baby my husband went right back to work and we never had a funeral or anything. It all just felt so wrong and I kept holding out some kind of crazy crazy hope that there was still a baby in there. I was completly dilusional but at the time it was my only way to cope with what had just happened. It still feels like it just happened yetsterday but I am now able to see good things that came from it. I know that doesn't seem like good things could come from such a thing but it changed me and for awhile for the worst but once I was able to cope with it I got better. I am a better person than I ever was...and I really do beleive it is because of that baby. My mom and I are closer. My one sister and I are closer...I have 2 other sisters who actually distanced them selves from me but I beleive it's because when they see me they think of that baby and that hurts them. They wanted him also. Anyway..........I am here for you and I am sorry that you have to go through this.

[angelstarsmum]

Im soo sorry hun (((hugs))) I m/c at 10 wks i started to spot and went for a scan and was told the baby had died :0( i asked for the tablet to enduce me and the following morning i actually went into full blown labour and was taken into hospital cos i was losing to much blood, im not saying this to scare you hun but everyone is different so if you feel uncomfortable with the idea of staying at home go back to your doc and ask for some answers you shouldn't have to deal with this alone, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.xxxx

[Hartoog1]

I agree with all that's been said so far. M/C is tough, both physically and emotionally. I've had three and each one was very different. If something doesn't feel right to you, rather see your doctor. You mentioned about crying....cry all you need to, hun. It does help with the healing. After each of mine I went thru different emotional trauma and the healing took longer each time but crying helped when I couldn't talk about it with anyone...even DH. My thoughts and prayers are with you. You are welcome to PM if you need a shoulder. Gina

[QueenAngie]

So very sorry, my dear!

It takes time to get over this, not just days.
Babe will always have a special place in your heart,
but not in your arms.

I had my m/c 19 years ago, and I still think about my sweet one on occasion.

Knowing that the sweet babe is in heaven
always gives me comfort.

The next baby never replaces the one you've lost.

I have written before....
What always gave me comfort was knowing that my maternal grandmother is in Heaven, holding my sweet babe,
rocking in the wooden rocking chair (the one that squeaked on occasion),
and Grandma singing to my sweet one.

Still brings tears to my eyes thinking all these years later,
but also brings me comfort & peace.

We will meet again someday in Heaven.

You can share my comforting thoughts.
My adult niece had a m/c 6 years ago and used the same
comforting thoughts.....adding their favorite dog, Patches,
at Grandma's feet.

Some people think that pets don't go to Heaven,
but I have to say, in my heart of hearts, Grandma has
Patches there with the two babies too.

(((Hugs)))

[clare792000]

Thank you all so much for the replies, it helps so much to know i am not alone and that im not the only one who's ever gone thoruigh it, although im so very sorry for all of your losses too.
Yesterday I felt a bit better, didnt cry so much and thought it was getting easier, but today ive been back down again. I think it will be like this until i have that scan weds. I am bleeding on and off so hoping this means it all coming away naturally and i wont have to have a d&c, but the scan is going to be hell, going through it all again, and especially if everyone in the hospital is so cold and uncaring as last time.
Thank you again for being there for me, it really does help.

[allisonx]

I'm sorry this is happening to you. It does get easier with time, though. ((hugs))