[jen78fl]

Hi all. Well I am new here, but this seems like a great forum! I am not sure exactly where to post this but this seemed like the right area. I really just want to get opinions on something, so please let me know what you think...
First of all, my mom and dad are divorced. I believe they got divorced in the early 80's. I was born in 1978. Anyway, since then my dad has been with a few other women that I know of, though never for long. He is not the easiest person to get along with!
So anyway, one day I was talking to him after I had just had an ultrasound of my daughter. He mentioned to me that he had seen my ultrasound.. But I talked to my mom and she said that he had never been to any of the dr's appts with her and had never seen any ultrasounds of me.. So, my mom and I were joking around, oh maybe he has another kid somewhere...
So, Im not sure why, but this was kind of bugging me. I went on ancestry.com and found a person whose dad has the same name as mine and she was born where my dad was living for quite awhile after my mom and dad were divorced.. But what really got me was her name. Her first name is a family name. My grandmother's sister's daughter has this name and her middle name is another family name and is actually my middle name. So, this seemed a little too much to be a coincidence.. So since then I have been trying to do some investigating. I have found out some info and also the mother's name, but I have no idea how I would get in contact with her.. By the way the mother's name also sounds like someone who my dad was involved with possibly. Her name is liliana and I know he was involved with someone named linda. Could linda be short for liliana??
Anyway, would anyone else be suspicious if they had found all of this info or am I making too much of it?? I would not really put it past my dad and his side of the family to hide something like this from me. My dad was in jail years ago and my aunt and grandmother hid this from me for the longest time...
Anyway, I just wanted to get some opinions on this.. And if anyone has any idea on how I could try to get in touch with this person, I would really appreciate that too!
Thanks everyone for listening Jennifer

[wanttobemommy]

if you really want to know the only way to do it without being sneaky is to ask. With my real father I didnt know how many kids he had after my mom and him divorced. My mother is the only woman he has ever been married to and the only woman he had more than one child with. My sister and I are the oldest. He then went on to have lots more children. My half brother Brandon is exactly 6 months younger than I am and I was premature. My real dad has about 15 biological children that we can account for. He only admits three

[purelegance]

i would either simply ask my dad or call my possible-sister. that is, if you really want to know.

[jen78fl]

I would like to get in touch with this person but I have no idea how... My dad is not a very open person so I dont think this is something I could come out and ask him...

[ccoconutt3]

just ask him outright....sounds like you have nothing to lose with him. what is he going to do- be mad? you didnt do anything wrong, you are asking a question....if he chooses to lie to you about it. then you will have to decide whether or not you want to move forward with it.
it sounds like your dad has a shady past and it is possible- it shouldn;t change anything between the tow of you- if anything, maybe you'll get closer from the honesty.

[jkl123]

Is there anyway to see a picture of this person on that website to see if she resembles you? If not, I would out-right ask him. If you don't, you are always going to wonder. You could always drop her name in a conversation (I met this girl, so-and-so) and see his reaction to her name.

[mollymae]

I'd just ask your dad outright. Imagine if you contact this person and you've got it all wrong you could cause some major stress, arguements and a lot of worry for a completely innocent family. It might be he saw something on TV and got confused kinda like suggested memory.