[neo0360]

I am currently engaged to the love of my life. She has three wonderful kids, I have none. The kids have accepted me as a "father" into there life. They all have had a hell of a road before I came into the picture. There Bio father was abusing the children. She was engaged to be married about a year before I came into the picture, and he was in the middle of adopting the kids, but he was killed in a auto accident 2 months before the marrage. So to say the least I have had my hands full.
As of late, she has been acting different. We have talked about it, and she sais she's just scared of loosing me like she did him. We just last week mailed out our invites to the wedding. She sais he died 7 days after they were mailed out, and thats why she is acting wierd.
I really dont know what to think-feel. If anyone has any imput on how to comfort her, I would appreciate it!

[mrslauren]

Honestly, it sounds extremley traumatic what her and the kids went through before. However, do not think of her emotions are not of her loving you, no, it sounds like she is afraid of loosing you like she did her previous FI.

Hold her, and tell her that everything will be fine. Comfort her, and reassure her that you are not going anywhere. Ensure the children as well.

She's just very scared.

[oweirdo]

I agree its a very hard time something you dont forget. Just be there for them!!!

[clifpi]

There is nothing better in the world then someone who you love telling you they don't want to lose you.
I think everyone in a relationship goes through that phase at one point or another...man or woman. I agree, tell her how you feel about her, reassure her and nothing speaks volumes like your actions...so show her. I think you two will be fine and know that marriage is a journey and enjoy being a parent to three wonderful kids.

[Momof2kids]

Congrats on your upcoming marriage! Reassure her and do something special on the 7th day of mailing the invites without telling her you are doing "something". You don't want to remind her but she will already be thinking of it anyway. Make your 7th mailing day special for her with happy memories and maybe include the children.