[ruthann8]

I haven’t had much free time lately, at home or at work. Ellamae is not sleeping well, she really never has, and the past 2-3 weeks have been awful. She gets up about every 1 ½! She has suddenly only wants mommy and will scream for me. I can’t even go pee in peace. This weekend we went up to my in-laws (about a 6hr drive!) My mil has a spit level house with lots of stairs and NO GATES. I asked my dh to have her get one and she said she had but it was a 20year old one that doesn’t work with banisters. If Ellamae would have pulled herself up on that gate it and her would have went crashing down the stairs. And my mil didn’t even try to make her home a little baby friendly. She has so many vases, candles, plants, etc. on the floor. I basically had to hold her all weekend. And she did knock over a candle and the glass shattered everywhere! And my dh was no help, he was off playing with his siblings to leave me to fend for myself with the grandparents and great grandparents and there infinite wisdom! I am so glad to be home! She did sleep a little better last night. Work this week is going to be really busy too. Ellamae and her “I want mommy” is going to wear me out. She won’t let anyone else feed her, bathe her, dress her, or hold her. She won’t let me have a break.

[MissyChrissy]

(((HUGS))) I know it's frustrating when you can't seem to get 10 minutes to yourself. And the in-laws!! It doesn't sound like you were able to enjoy yourself at all. Yikes...I think I'd simply make a silent little rule to myself that I wouldn't be going there again. You dh should have been more proactive in helping you with her.

I have to say it---I know I've felt exactly the way you posted. I know Conner overwhelms me. BUT...there WILL come a day when you will miss these days with everything that you are. As hard as it is, there's something special about it. I miss the days when my older girls were babies.

[ruthann8]

I already miss her earlier months! She is growing up too fast! Even though I am exhaused she always makes me smile.

[DivasMomma]

i agree...you will EVENTUALLY miss these days (ok not the no sleep, but her wanting you all the time!)

I am going through the same thing with Kaydee too...I feel your pain!

Ask DH to give you at least 30 mins a night to go take a walk, a drive, ANYTHING to get you out of the house and away from her cries. And dont feel guilty...she wont remember!

[LeanyBean]

My doc always warns of stranger anxiety at our 6 month check ups. He says a good number of babies will start getting clingy to the one person they spend the most of their time with. In turn they get very particular about every other person they encounter. So perhaps this is why she is going through the "I need my mommy" phase.

I wish I could give you an easy fix but the best advice I have been given is to ride out the storm and take very gradual steps in extending time away from her and extending time spent with others.

[MommaColleen]

I know how you feel. Emma does that same thing with me and some days it is REALLY challenging. Like the others said it does pass eventually and you will mkiss those days. My older 2 (11 & 13) won't give me the time of day sometimes

HUGS to you.

[1stTimeMomOf2]

I know how you feel! I am staying home with my twins and today I felt like I was going insane. I know dh works hard so I can stay home to be the one with them but he does the same thing yours does. When we go to anyone's house or if anyone comes here he automatically goes into social mode and I'm the one left doing all the work. Not to say anything bad against him, he needs his time to "get away" too but I feel like my time and his time are definitely not equal. And here I sit, my husband took the kids for a walk after I basically begged him to take them so I could have a few minutes to breath.
Wow. I may miss these days but I definitely am not in love with them right now.

[purelegance]

izzy started that about this age too, it lasted about a month. i think that's about the time that i enforced the "every other morning" rule with DH so i could get some sleep. it sure sucked the days it was my morning, but it was well worth it the next morning! although, if you work in the morning, that doesn't really help much. start making DH go in there with her at night, i got to the point where it was "i give up" and forced DH to go in. this is also about the time izzy got easier to put down because she gave up on the preference idea. My heart goes out to you though, i'm normally such a pushover and it was during this stage that i would say "josh, you HAVE to go do this NOW." haha. poor DH was so confused!

[Tracey with 6]

I agree with the pp's it's a stage,I know it can be tough but it only lasts a little while and tell dh to stop being such a social buterfly they were his family time to start helping!! Oh and it's true when they get older you'll wish for a time to connect with them ,my 15year old would rather die than talk to me

[purelegance]

Originally Posted by 1stTimeMomOf2

but I feel like my time and his time are definitely not equal.

welcome to my #1 rant! DH isn't working right now, but when it's his morning, i'll let him sleep until the cows come home. when it's my morning -- "it's 11 o'clock, you need to get up." (meanwhile, i'm the one who gets up with Izzy during the night whilst he snores away in my spot of the bed.) he takes a shower by himself, i take a shower and it's "take izzy with you. she loves peeking in." (yea, and letting all the cold air in!) go on a 5 minute errand "take izzy with you." and if i say "no" i get the "you're terrible for not wanting your daughter with you" attitude/face and rant from him.

ok, off my soap box.