[determined1]

Hi everyone! ok so my wife has said that she has fallen out of love with me, have you had this happen to you? and what have you done to get that spark back and be happy again?. what sucks is that im in FL and she is in MI untill next month, and if something doesnt happen we are gunna split up and im not about to lose the woman that i love. any advice anyone can give me would be a big big help.. thanks for lookin everyone.

[DivasMomma]

its going to be very hard being that far apart....BUT....you do love her, thats obvious...show her as much as possible without smothering her... that will make her run the other way if you smother her.

Try sending small gifts--flowers, chocolates, etc, for no reason to the house. Maybe you can plan a surprise visit?



Dont have much else but, good luck!!

[determined1]

I did a surprise visit for the fourth of july and things went really well. and i hear you about not smothering her, but im happy that well be back at our house in NC next month so we can start working stuff out. thanks for the reply

[mrmnmom82]

I still have the post cards and letters my husband sent me when he went away on vacation with his family (we were dating at the time). One had a pressed flower from his greataunts yard. some were hilarious, others were romantic.

I think hope she will hold on for a month until you are able to work it out face to face.

[DivasMomma]

they may be a big issue being away from you as well....i know when my DH goes away i start to lose touch with him as well..but then when he gets home its like we are falling in love for the first time again

[emilye]

Oh...I am so sorry to hear that this is happening "determined". My DH is in the Navy and we spend lots of time apart. I think what keeps us going is that we make it new each time he is home. Last time he came home after a deployment we went out on a first date. He drove away from house then came and picked me up with flowers etc. Even had awkward first date kiss.
I know it sounds corney but all this kind of stuff keeps our relationship alive and we have grown so much together as a couple.
I wish you and your DW all the best for the coming time at home.

Em

[determined1]

yeah im a Marine and she has done 2 deployments, and we havent had the problems that we have had on them as we have been having on my time here at school, but this time is different for some reason, i just hope that it all works out, its not looking good from here

[emilye]

Oh...wow. Have you spoken to a counsellor or anyone as part of defence that can help. we are in Australia so our defence program is different , but we have a community organisation that my DH and I have approached for a number of things (especially dealing with my miscarriage)
Feel free to PM me if you need any help.

Its such a hard lifestyle with both of you in defence. I am actually leaving defence to try and calm any uneasiness.
I do agree with what some of the others have said re: letting her know how much you love her without smothering her. However with both of you being in defence I am sure you can understand how different we all become after a deployment and adjusting back into normal life may make our relationships a little more strained then others.
Have you spoken to her as to why she may be falling out of love with you?? Sorry if that is a bit hard to hear

[emilye]

Additionally, is there anything special that you always relate as something special to just you two! Like a place or something. It might be a good idea to take her to where she fell in love with you in an attempt to rekindle the flame.
Oh...I am so worried about you. I hate when things like this happen, and it seems to be so common across defence forces around the world.
Just know that there is hope.

You are in my thoughts

[KR258]

I have no adivce...I just wanted to wish you luck. I hope things work out for you.