[deedee1231]

My really good friend just found out a few weeks ago that she has breast cancer. She had been misdiagnosed with a breast infection about a month and a half ago and the antibiotics didn't do anything for it and eventually they diagnosed inflammatory breast cancer.

She found out yesterday that she is stage 3, she is undergoing tests every day this week to determine whether it might even be stage 4, which is considered terminal.

I am scared. I know that is stupid because it isn't me, but I am still scared. I don't want to lose my friend, and I am worried about her and her son (she is a single Mom). I have told her that I am praying for her and that I am here for her. If she needs anything to let me know and I will do whatever I can for her. But when she calls me and tells me about her appointments, I get so tongue tied, I don't know what to say or how to react. I feel so stupid when the only thing that comes out of my mouth is "Oh no!" Oh my!" and "Oh dear!" I went to see her and she doesn't start chemo until next week, so she is chipper and seems fine, and I just couldn't deal with seeing her and I didn't stay long. Then I felt guilty for leaving.

Does anyone have any advice on how to handle this, and how to be normal around my friend? And how can I help her? What can I do to make this easier for her once she starts the chemo? Thanks.