[adoptionblessings]

Often adoptees have things we have wanted to say or questions we would have liked to ask our adoptive parents or birth parents. But opportunities have not been favorable to talk or share, or we may have fears, or may feel we would be misunderstood or possibly might hurt someone's feelings.

I wish I had had the opportunity when I was younger, now I am 51, to talk with my adoptive parents about my questions about my birth and adoption. I am aware now that they did not have much information given to them, but there was never an open environment to talk about the circumstances of my birth and adoption. Though I always knew I was adopted and heard the word adoption alot, we did not talk about any details or facts or persons from my birth history. It was as if I was adopted and there were no persons who brought me into this world. They did not exist in my mind and were never mentioned. I know this was the way they chose to counsel adoptive parents, to leave the past the past. But it created such a BIG mystery that hung over me through the years and always was the taboo subject- making it feel "bad" or forbidden. Since my search and reunion with my birth sisters 12 years ago, my adoptive mom and I share openly on the subject and it is wonderful and so freeing, and we no longer have this big mystery looming out there any more.
I always wish I could have met my birth mother/birthfather (they were married for 13 years when I was born) and told them thanks for giving me life and for not taking the "easy" way out, abortion.( I know abortion is a forever pain with no joy of ever reuniting in this lifetime) I am so happy to be alive and enjoyed this wonderful journey of life and adoption! I will never know if my birth mom/father resolved their sadness and pain over my adoption (she was very ill when I was born but survived and died young at 52) I pray that somehow she knew that others were filled with gratitude for her decision and felt she was a beautiful person to walk such a painful and courageous path.

I honor both my birth parents Milton and Lucille and my adoptive parents, Gladys and Walter for giving me the precious gift of a beautiful life!
Jody