[Alex8600]

Hello, all. I'd like to first off say that I am new to this site, and I do apologize if I am posting my question in the wrong forums..very sorry. I post it here because it mostly is a 75% religious matter, 25% family matter. Also I am currently not of any denomination (though I am Christian, always have been) but I study, practice, and follow Catholicism. Alright onto what I have to say... I am a 16 year old male, and in the Fall season of 2007 I started to think about my future, whatever God may or may not have in store for me. Now at the time I of course had no reason to be thinking of such thingsl; I didn't get anyone pregnant or anything such as that, as I don't even have any offline friends so no need to worry of that. As I was saying, I was thinking about my future, and the family that I hope to have sometime..and after a couple weeks of pondering a future-family in general, I focused on future children. I would lie in bed before going to sleep and just dream of one day that I might have a daughter...I would love to have a little girl! Every night I would think of the possibility that it may happen sometime in my life, when I'm grown, God permitting. Late December of 2007 I actually came up with a name I hope to call her when/if she is to be born, the name was Shea (to this day I'm still trying to think of a second name). Soon after thinking up a name....I did something I don't know of anyone else trying, I started to actually talk to her! When I found myself with no one around, I would tell her what had happened to me that day, or recently..I would tell her how much I *already* love her and that I'll always be her daddy! Now let me say I am pretty confident none of you have heard something like my case before..or maybe you have, who knows! Anyway, from all the way from December of 2007, to today I continue to talk to my little Shea about so many things, and I feel as if our relationship is continuing to grow. I want to ask, does anyone believe that the children of people who are destined to be parents when the time comes, are waiting in Heaven until the time they are to be born? I certainly believe this with all my heart. I firmly believe the souls of our future children are waiting in Heaven, and like guardian angels, I believe we can connect with our kids of the future! I'm sorry if I sound a bit nuts but I have had no one to tell this to, so it's good to get it out. It's good to be apart of this forum!

[Alexciousa]

First things first, won't this put cosiderable pressure on the poor thing if and when you have her? Will you tell her about this? Will you expect her to remember, or if not, at least feel the same, or believe you?
Anyway I guess that's up to you. So far as I know, according to the Bible the dead (and unborn) know nothing. Maybe you are thinking about this too much--? The only way I really think you can find out if this is right or not is to talk to God about it. A lot. What if you're actually talking to God all this time? If you weren't maybe you should fill that space in your heart with him instead? I think that sounds a lot healthier.
I used to be like you, about 7 years back for about a year, only I was in constant dialogue with God. I know it's possible and I know it's neriching, and I'm trying to get it back. Maybe it's just what you need to help you make sure you're not venturing into Satanic ground. People in the bible (eg. Saul calling up Samuel) were very much frowned upon by God for calling on the dead.

This whole no friends business too. The kind of dialogue you share with your "daughter" might be replacing some kind of need for the love of family or friends?

This whole thing sounds mighty scary to me, though I'm completely familiar with scary thoughts so don't think I won't return to see what you have to say.
I don't mean any offence, but i really cant see this thing resulting in an positive situation.
What if she is not everything you pictured, one day when you have a daughter, she may seem like a complete imposter, an alien.
What if you ended up hurting her?
The list of weird stuff goes on.
Please don't think I mean any offence.

[QueenAngie]

Welcome to the board!

Teenaged years for both boys and girls can be a challenge.
Lots of obstacles and opportunities to learn new things,
grow intellectually,
grow physically,
and grow spiritually.

Sometimes, when kids are young, they have an imaginary friend
they talk to all the time.

I believe you can talk to God at any time, in any place,
and He will listen.

What if you never have children?
Or just boys?

Maybe you should start writing every night in a journal,
your daily thoughts.
Not directed at anyone in particular, just your feelings.

If you were my son, I would encourage a good Bible study book,
a daily journal,
and to spend more time talking to God or Jesus.

Wishing you all the best! Am certain you will make a good father some day.