[sadgradma]

Originally Posted by DivasMomma

My mom is young (just turned 40) and she isnt too involved either...she constntly tells me how she hates kids, thats just how it is...I personally think its because she is in denial and not ready to be "grandmom" yet...she actually wanted the kids to call her Allie, not any grandmom name...shes been slowly getting better...buying them some things and whatnot...quick story:
I didnt see her throughout my whole 1st pregnancy...she didnt even come to my baby shower, or the hospital to meet her granddaughter...she actually didnt meet her until 3 days later!! But, when her dog was in labor she called people after EVERY puupy was born to tell them the gender, weight, etc...i felt horrible!!

Divasmomma, I'm really sorry about your mom not being ready to be a grandmother! (Her lost!) Just remember that not all grandparents are like your mom, I'm a very proud gradma of 3 boys but unfortunally I don't see them because I don't agree with my son and daughter in law using me in every possible way, I don't interfere in their lives nor I tell them how to raise their children, I have already raise mine so they have every right to raise theirs, The problem we have is that everytime I don't agree or say yes with what they are saying or asking, Money, Babysit anytime they want to go out with friends they use the kids to get back at me, I've help them so much but the reality is I have a life of my own and can't always be available when they want me to be. Please remember that there are many good grandparents up there who are being use and abuse by their own children, SAD BUT TRUE! Good luck and I hope your mom comes to her senses.

[sadgradma]

Please take the time to check my grand children photos, I promise you won't be disappointed!

[DivasMomma]

we are at least lucky enough to have an awesome set of GP on my DH side...they take the kids just about anytime we ask them too, and even ask to take them just about every weekend...they are wonderful people...

[sadgradma]

Originally Posted by DivasMomma

we are at least lucky enough to have an awesome set of GP on my DH side...they take the kids just about anytime we ask them too, and even ask to take them just about every weekend...they are wonderful people...

divaamomma, You have a beautiful family, Saw your profile I'm glad that your children have a set of good grandparents!

[sadgradma]

I'm writing this article out of desperation and I need your help! I'm in the same position as many of you grandparents up there, (VISITATION DENIAL OF OUR GRANDKIDS) I realize that Everyone's situation is different but it all comes down to one thing! Some our of children use their children OUR GRANDKIDS AS WEAPONS AGAINST US And something needs to be done! We can't see or aloud to see our precious grandchildren when they get upset with us because they don't get their ways! Please go into ipetitions.com, There you can sign your name and it can be anonymous and your vote will still count, We owe this to our precious grandchildren ( visitations Rights ) I already wrote to my state representative please do the same as well. I tried to paste the link here but I was unsuccessful Please feel free to write me at luciab83@aol.com and will be happy to send you the link if for reason doesn't work for you here. REMEMBER OUR GRANDCHILDREN DESERVE TO BE LOVE BY US! Do this for them! My number one goal is to get the legislation change so we grandparents get visitations rights, So please all grandparents or anyone they would like to help us sign the petition! We really need those votes! I've sent emails with the link to all my friends and they have forwarded to their friends as well so lets keep this rolling please.
Thank you, Merry Christmas & God bless.

[sadgradma]

Originally Posted by sadgradma

I'm writing this article out of desperation and I need your help! I'm in the same position as many of you grandparents up there, (VISITATION DENIAL OF OUR GRANDKIDS) I realize that Everyone's situation is different but it all comes down to one thing! Some our of children use their children OUR GRANDKIDS AS WEAPONS AGAINST US And something needs to be done! We can't see or aloud to see our precious grandchildren when they get upset with us because they don't get their ways! Please go into ipetitions.com, There you can sign your name and it can be anonymous and your vote will still count, We owe this to our precious grandchildren ( visitations Rights ) I already wrote to my state representative please do the same as well. I tried to paste the link here but I was unsuccessful Please feel free to write me at luciab83@aol.com and will be happy to send you the link if for reason doesn't work for you here. REMEMBER OUR GRANDCHILDREN DESERVE TO BE LOVE BY US! Do this for them! My number one goal is to get the legislation change so we grandparents get visitations rights, So please all grandparents or anyone they would like to help us sign the petition! We really need those votes! I've sent emails with the link to all my friends and they have forwarded to their friends as well so lets keep this rolling please.
Thank you, Merry Christmas & God bless.

I kind of had a feeling that I was not going to get any responds on this issue here BECAUE, Most people here have issues with grandparents so therefore they think that most grandparents are bad people but the fact of matter is-There is bad grandparents just as much there is bad parents, For my own experiences A lot of parents use their parents financially and phisically and when they don't get what they want then they put grandparents on the bad granparents category so they use their children as weapons to get back at them, Do you call that good parenting? Not in my book you don't. Anyway, Something to think about.

[Dadaji]

Communication is not always easy, but its important, especially with the many positive ways that children can benefit by having their grandparents in their life. I was very interested in this topic and made a short film about the opposite end of this issue, when grandparents are actually living in the same household.(dadajimovie.com). I would say, talk to your mother in law about it, she may just be trying to not interfere.