[LissaLou]

Hello Everyone! I am new here, not sure this is the site I am looking for, but if not, I will continue to search until I find one. I have a 12 yr old son, soon to be 13! He is really a good kid, for the most part! I have some concerns about his attitude towards everything; life, family, friends, daily routines...all of it really. My partner and I have made a chore list for him...he comes in from school...works AT the chore list..never completly finishes it, and when he says he does do it all...it is not done correctly. Now, the thing is, he KNOWS how to do these things correctly. He is becoming highly disrespectful to me as well as others around him that are a constant in his life. I have tried everything I can think of to try to correct this issue, but nothing seems to work! Is there anyone out there that can offer some advice? A big thank you in advance!



Melissa H

[letschildproofdotcom]

children at that age begin to think they know everything. They think they are grown and the stuff that you tell them to do are just suggestions. I suggest making him know your serious by using escalating punishments when he doesn't do what you say.

for example, the first time he doesn't finish the chore list or is disrespectful you can just make him have extra chores. After then then make him have extra chores and take away video games. After that it will be extra chores, no video games, no tv, confined to his bed room.

If he becomes violent, I suggest getting him counseling... just make sure you shop around to find a counselor that he can relate to or that he likes.

[ladynan]

I'm not a mother however I am a nanny (I have sat for over 80 kids) so I have seen all sorts of behavior like this. Naturally, I have seen all of the parents reactions so I can try to vouch for what works best. It's called being a punk teenager
The trick is to set a punishment and STICK TO IT WITH EVERYTHING YOU HAVE. The punishment should NEVER fit the crime. I have read several parenting books (hey, I have to do something when the kids go to bed!) and I would suggest you research some of John Rosemonds stuff. He may be strict and you may have to tweak things to fit your taste, but he is a genious. If need be, take the time to hover, it will drive him so crazy that he will start doing things properly just so you leave his space. Thirteen years old isn't too old to send to his room either- if he doesn't do his things properly he may go straight to his room after dinner. If he has a tv in his room take it away. Don't negotiate with him either because then that gives him a say in his punishment and YOU are the boss. Don't feel bad- he makes his bed and he can sleep in it. Crack a whip now before it's too late and you get bigger troubles on your hands.

[QueenAngie]

Welcome to the board!

Hoping that things are getting easier at your home with your son.

[FitToTheFinish]

As a Mom of a 12 year old son, it can be challenging. What has worked well for us is to be totally consistent, insist on respectful tones, and punish by taking away privledges. We've seen a wonderful young man emerge over the last 6 months.
I hope things go better for you.

[sanilbd]

my name is shawon.thanks