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My sister in law has really upset me and I need advice on how to handle this. I have truly tried really getting close to her and going out of my way to be nice to her, but she always ends up smarting off or doing something that puts me back to trying all over again. She's Very Controlling, Thinks she's the most intelligent Person Ever and Very Outspoken to the point that it doesn't matter who she hurts. Her and I are actually the Daughters in Law in the family. We have the most wonderful Mother and Father in Law that a person could ever ask for. They are a true meaning of what a Christian person should be, they live what they preach, they'd do anything for anyone. When My SIL had her baby, she did not want the inlaws to even be at the hospital, they accepted her wishes, but was so hurt, they asked her at first if it would be ok if they came, but would not come into her room and be any bother to her at, they just wanted to be there for their son and to see thier grandbaby for the first time.....she did end up letting them come, but they had to stay in the waiting room, which was fine. The baby was born and he had a heart condition and at the time, we never knew if he'd make it or not. The in-laws was there at the hospital to see him or to try to help with money, support, just anything they needed. She would not allow them to go back and meet him. It's not just the in-laws that she's this way with, she treated her family and people that she goes to Church with the same way. She hurt so many people during this time because in our world, this is just what you do, we usually always try to be there for family and friends in their times of need. We were all hurt, but never said a word about it because we knew it was a rough time and that her emotions were out of whack!

After the baby ended up having surgery, coming home and we knew everything was ok. I oftened wondered why she wouldn't let the inlaws see him, what if, thank God nothing did, but what if something had happened to the baby and the grandparents never got to meet him? It's just strange to me, but still nothing was ever said to her about it.

I"m trying to add in a few things to help understand where I"m coming from, but there are oh so much more that I could say, but to try to get to the point, I'll stop there and get to the real point. The Baby is now a little over a year old and she's going back to work since her mother can no longer afford to pay her Huge mortgate payment so now she needs the in-laws to babysit for her. They have glady accepted and they're loving every minute of it. They will even at times drive 60 miles to watch him at their house so they don't have to travel so much. While the MIL is at her home, she cleans, does laundry and has their supper waiting for them when they come home. They will even drive the 60 miles again on some weekends to babysit while they go out for dinner and movie.......What more could anyone ask for?

Now the BIG issue that blows my mind. Her and I both have a myspace page where we try to keep in touch on a daily basis. I signed in yesterday and she had written a blog about Our Mother in Law that truly made me so mad that at this moment I want nothing more to do with her or her husband for not being man enough to stand up to her and put her in her place. She's online bashing our MIL about how MIL taught her son to eat with a spoon today and how MIL is taking all the glory for it, she says that its not MIL's accomplishment, its the baby's. Then she goes on to say, that MIL called this morning to ask how "Her Boy" was doing ( her boy meaning grandma's boy) and she got all upset saying, That is my son, not hers...........How childish and inmature? If my MIL had read those comments she would have been so hurt. I want to tell her just what I think, but how do I do this without causing a family crisis. I'm just sick and tired of having to walk on egg shells while she's around, because that's what her husband wants us to do and My MIL and FIL abide by his wishes, I'm just sick of trying to please her when she could care less about anyone else. I just dont want my inlaws to find out what she's said, because this hasn't been the first time she's done it. She makes them out to be evil people on her blogs and it just gets on my last nerve! Advice Please?