[Morgan9]

Hi I new to this website.
A week ago I found out that my boyfriend of 3 years has been going 3 websites chatting up women for the past month, one website in particular, that very same day I closed down his profile on that website, I am absolutely devasted but after endless conversations and I know that he never met up with this women we decided to try and work through it.
I have access to his hotmail account and I changed his password so he could not access it, he did not have a problem with this as he knows he messed up, he also has another email account with Yahoo that he uses only for sending out his CV for jobs.
His reasoning for going on these websites were that he was bored at work and wanted to see what reaction he would get from the women and he like the attention. And he wasnt really thinking when accessing these sites, he kinda saw it as a fantasy world that would never become reality. He was off work last week so I disconnected the internet cable so he could not go on it. He then went back to work on Saturday just gone.
Anyway this morning when checking his hotmail account, there is a message from Yahoo confirming that his yahoo account password has been changed on saturday just gone, now that got me thinking as I never had his password for that email account so why would he need to change it, so I managed to go on to yahoo and say that I forgot my password so yahoo emailed his hotmail account allowing me to rest the password, so I did, I then access the Yahoo account and low and behold he has signed up to the same website that I deleted the profile accept he has changed his name and he set this up when he went back to work on Satruday, he is now claiming it was not him like im stupid, like someone would set up a profile account and use his email that he hardly ever uses to say that they can use that email address to sent notifications.
I dont know what to do, I feel so betrayed weve been trying for a baby for the past six months and he goes and does this, was wondering if anyone has gone through something like this and survived it
Any comments would be appreciated.

[Samual]

Your boyfriend needs to be truthful and you need to be able to hold trust to his words and actions, which is something you cannot do until he comes clean and take real actions instead of being all talk and show. Yes, I understand that attention from women would flatter him, but that doesn't justify his actions of putting himself out there, I doubt he would see it as something funny if he found you were putting yourself out there for men to drool over.
For someone to create an account as he has claimed, they would need to know him enough to have his email, have photos of him, know his birthday etc, not likely and not likely to coincide with him being caught.
I think the most important thing is to take your time and keep sitting down with him and talking this through until he is willing to tell you the truth, even if it is something you don't want to hear.

[Kimmama]

You are not married? You do not have children? If you answered no to both questions, I would advise you to get out of this relationship. If you were already married I would say try to save it, but these are serious red flags to be having before marriage and after only three years together. If you are committed, at least try to not have children until you have resolved your issues. Pregnancy would only complicate things and make you feel much worse about his behavior because not only would he be your SO, but he would also be the father of your child, does that make sense?

[MissyChrissy]

Follow the signs and leave...but remember, if you're feeling the need to have your bf's email address passwords, you really have big issues. Whether those issues pertain to him or you, or both, is hard to say.

[Clam]

I agree. My husband found his old girlfriend on facebook.....and subsequently started seeing her behind my back.....and I told him to move out. I also found e-mails from her, when his blackberry somehow re-directed all e-mails to the account I had access to (crazy huh?).
We are back together now BUT we are married and have a son together. If your partner has a need to chat with other women NOW, don't count on his fidelity later.