[schristinar85]

2 years ago my aunt died from an overdose. She was a drug addict and mentally unstable. She had 2 kids, a 14 yr old boy and a 12yr old girl. They moved in with us (me, 21, my mom, my dad and my brother, 17) The 14 yr old boy was extremely troubled, did drugs, stole, had unprotected sex, and got arrested for a variety of things. After a few months he finally moved to his estranged father out of state. (not the same father as the girl, her father is dead)
For the last 2 years though, we have been caring for the girl who is now 13. Although she is not as violent or unstable as her brother, she is becoming more and more difficult to deal with. She is a compulsive lier and I do mean compulsive. She lies about anything and everything. She is very sneaky and manipulative. She has been doing inappropriate things with boys & girls at school and She now has begun stealing things.
We have tried everything we can think of and we don't know what to do anymore. My parents have grounded her, taken away TV & other things, gave her extra chores ect. But NOTHING gets through to her. She cries and apologises and swears she will change, (and you really want to believe her) but then she turns around 5 minutes later and does the exact same thing! She has been in therapy for months and she only seems to be getting worse. Can anyone help? We are going crazy!
FYI: my parents are now her legal gardians and are liable for her. They are scared of the things she may do

[wanttobemommy]

Im sorry but sounds like your parents will need to take action. If things are really bad your parents can get her on a CHINS (Child In Need of Services) petition. Its called different things in different towns. But it basically is a legal way your parents as her guardian can go to court and see if there are legal things they can do such as my sister was put on a CHINS petition and basically it was probation and she violated her curfew and went to Juvie.

[fhaye]

It is really tough when you don't know how to raise them specially they are turnover to your parents as legal guardian. It is not easy to make decisions for the girl and the therapy don't work for her. My advice could be is let her be in a boarding school. It might work and can be suitable for her to be there. Like those boys military schools but I think there are also girls boarding school who are in the military.

Here is what I've searched for you to read on a military school click here.

Hope this could help you and your parents.

[ProudPapa]

Your parents must discipline this girl with an iron fist. Make her think that she can't get away with anything that she does. Instill in her a sense of fear.

[swt1899]

My cousin overdosed two years ago... on purpose and suffered from anxiety and depression. She had a 15 year old daughter who pretty much ran things at home. She lied, stole, skipped school... you name it, she did it. After my cousin died, her daughter ran away. She got money from friends and bought a bus ticket to go meet someone whom she was having a relationship with.... someone who was also 24 years old and over 400 miles away. My uncle got it out of her friends where she went and alerted police at the bus station. They got her as soon as she got off the bus. She is now back living with my uncle, but under close watch. No cell phone, they drop her off and pick her up from school, she has no door to her room, all get togethers with her friends are supervised, etc. She is pretty much on lock down. And she is now 17. Our goal is to make sure she graduates high school. She has been seeing a grief counselor and a counselor at her school.
I think that those children need to seek counseling from a grief counselor. The acting out may beause of what they have been through. No child should go through a parents' death with out seeking professional help. The grief that my cousin's daughter went through was unexplainable. Last Christmas she came to me because she was not handling Christmas with out her mother well. We talked and it seemed that with her talking she was able to let out a lot of repressed anger, sadness, frustration, etc.
I hope that things improve. I'll say a prayer for those children.