[AndyAddict]

Hi Guys
I am a male of 36 and am lost with this.
Well here is my problem, I have a very high sex drive and really want to lower it. My partner is older than me ( I am 36) . I find myself thinking about it all the time and twitching whenever I am near her or think of her. She feels guilty if we dont do anything and I try so hard to reassure her and say it doesn't matter. I love her and hate seeing her feel like this. I dont make a big deal of it but find myself getting frustrated. I love the cuddles and the togetherness, but then "he" starts and find myself backing of so she doesnt feel it.
Can anyone help me with some advice
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[mrslauren]

Hmmm, maybe find something else to occupy your time, like a video game or a sport.

Keep your mind someplace else. World of Warcraft (WoW) helps to mind the time

HTH

[purelegance]

world of warcraft will certainly keep you busy, but it might keep you TOO busy & you won't be able to seperate yourself from the computer. (you may not believe me, but speaking from past experience between DH & myself, trust me. it's nearly ruined us a few times).

however, do you you have any other hobbies? cars, motorcycles, a different video game besides world of warcraft?

[mrslauren]

Originally Posted by purelegance

world of warcraft will certainly keep you busy, but it might keep you TOO busy & you won't be able to seperate yourself from the computer. (you may not believe me, but speaking from past experience between DH & myself, trust me. it's nearly ruined us a few times).

however, do you you have any other hobbies? cars, motorcycles, a different video game besides world of warcraft?

I definatley agreen with pureelegance on this one! WoW, although it will keep you busy, you really need to find out the balance between both. Otherwise it will cause more of an issue.

DH and I were able to balance it, and then I started to join him with the game! It was a lot of fun...I guess with this you will see the "pros and cons"

[mcmama]

You need counseling. You may have an addiction. If you are as obsessed with this as you indicate, you have a problem -and the problem is not drive - it is obsession.

Counseling with a psychologist or licensed therapist will help you sort this out - you may need to consult with a physicians for medications, as this may be tied to other issues of impulse control or obsessiveness.

[AndyAddict]

I have got a number of passtimes including football badminton tennis and swimming but still cant stop urges, in fact the more i do the fitter i feel and it is having the opposite effect
i have not talked to my partner about this and if i went to Counseling she would find not be happy
AM so lost

[mcmama]

I don't believe your partner is an obstacle to you going to counseling. And how do you know if you have not talked to her about it? Why have you not talked to her about counseling?

Just go, for yourself. You need it.

[RichandLaura]

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[Samual]

Well men who do more physical exercise do get more erections due to the release of adrenaline and endorphins. You need to ask your wife why she is refusing you or not in the mood.

[purelegance]

working out is probably doing the opposite of what you want. DH has a low sex drive & i pretty much make him work out to keep up with me is there some kind of hobby that requires a lot of concentration?