[dlb_rsb]

I became friends with a girl - we had scrapbooking in common and our boyfriends were aquaintances. She was having a lot of various problems in her relationship. I listened without voicing my opinion for nearly 6 months. All she did was complain to me about him and problems she was having with her mother (her mother lives with her). Finally the boyfriend did a few things that I did not agree with - I was ONLY concerned for her and her child's well-being. I voiced my opinion because I didN'T feel she was seeing the whole picture and what truly was important (her child and herself). She got mad at me and has not spoken to me for about a month. I have apologized about 6 times or more and explained why I said what I said but not making excuses for it, via texting and email because I tried calling and she will not answer my calls. Its not like I harmed her, killed anyone or anything like that. I just voiced my opinion and she didn't like what she heard apparently. It was only my opinion and I told her that. Why can't she forgive me? Why complain to me for six months about all your problems and then not expect me to get involved....?
What more can I do???????

[mollymae]

She's probably embarrassed. I was in a abusive relationship with a partner that used to such stupid things. I moaned about him but constantly tried to justify his behavior because in my mind I thought it was my fault.

You did the right thing saying something. You pointed out that he was doing something wrong.

I bet she's thinking about what you said and maybe she's realised his behaviour isn't exceptable and she might find the strength to do something about it. It might be she's told him and he's putting pressure on her to not speak to you.

Just let her know you still there for her if she needs you.

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[SuperSandraB]

Your friend sounds like what is called an emotional vampire...someone who complains a lot about their problems and expects you to just be their sounding board. I don't think it was wrong of you to voice your opinion as long as you did it in a respectful and caring way. From the sound of it you struck a nerve...what you said prolly hit the nail right on the head for her but she doesn't want to confront the truth. There are people like that...they'd rather complain than actually do anything about the situation.
That said, I say just stop calling her. If she doesn't want to talk to you, you can't force her to. Even if you do go back to being friends you'd probably become her sounding board again, unless you set boundaries to prevent her from doing so. But the ball is in her court for now. Let her contact you. Like I said, from the sound of it you are not the person in the wrong.

[tdelossantos]

I think that you need to just let her be. If she's honestly upset about your opinion (which I think was reasonable because you've heard about him for 6 months straight) then what's the point? You can't help anyone if they don't want to be helped. Whatever problems she was having with her relationship aren't that big a deal because she obviously doesn't want out or want to hear that he needs to straighten up. Give her time and, hopefully, she'll come to realize it on her own.