[sunflowersweetie75]

OK, my future DH is really trying to handle a pain in the boss. Right now we are trying to pay off a personal loan to a friend so he is working two jobs - one forty hour job and one part time on certain nights and on the weekend. Well on Saturday right before he was going into job #2 he got a call from the big boss at job #1 wanting him to come in and help with a job that just came in (which has never happened b4) and my fiancé' told him that he wasn't able to come in b/c he already had made a commitment to his weekend job. To which Mr. Big Boss replied "are you going to work there 40 hrs a week??" Future DH politely said no and gave the boss a coworkers number who had just recently changed cell numbers so that he could see if this other guy could go in. (My future DH is not the only one capable of going in - there are 5 others in the shop.)
Well this today in the "morning meeting" Mr. Big Boss made the statement that when he receives the lump sum at the beginning of the year to dole out for raises he will remember who was able to come in on Saturday's and who was loyal to the company. My fiancé' is bummed and feels defeated. He is working his butt off trying to help us repaying this loan and all he gets is crap from job #1!!! He feels like he is beating a dead horse.
How should I respond - help....please I feel like crying....

[DivasMomma]

I am sure your DH;s boss feels threatened by the other job--which is kind of a good thing. Means he really like your DH working for him. He SHOULD be treating him better regardless! I dont have any other advice to offer, but good luck and I hope he gets treated the way he should

[mrmnmom82]

Would it help for him to explain this is only temperary. He is just trying to get his family out of the red. Maybe if the boss knows it's not permanent, he'll cut your future hubby some slack?

[sunflowersweetie75]

Yes he told him on Saturday that it was a temp. thing and that is was only on the weekends....thanks for the input - any others?

[mrmnmom82]

How much longer will he have to have the 2nd job? Are the bonuses being handed out at Christmas time? Maybe if it's resolved, and he's back to one job before bonus time, boss will reconsider?

[sunflowersweetie75]

Hopefully one more month on the 2nd job and he will be done with it. So it is a temporary but painful headache...

[Samual]

Lots of companies have a strict no second job policy, in all jobs you have to accept a certain amount of overtime otherwise you are not entitled to pay rises and bonus's. Stupid, but thats how it is.

[sunflowersweetie75]

Thanks for that insight Samuel - I am going to get out his handbook (if I can find it hehe!) and see if they have such policies.

[twinzplus3]

Um. . .not in America Samual. Some companies do have such policies but we don't like our freedom restricted so. Some companies have non-competing clauses but I'm guessing that he doesn't work for one of those. Bonuses and discretionary raises can be based on extra over time but not contractual raises.

[flowergardengirl]

It really is refreshing to see two young people trying so hard. Sometimes encouragement is all that is needed. That sounds simple but true. You really can't do anything about what your fiance's boss said but sometimes, bosses change their minds. A good testimony goes a long way. My husband is a successful businessman these days but a long time ago we were in your shoes. 2 jobs, 2 kids, no money, going to school, and living away from family support. Unfair junk happens and you just have to walk through it doing the best you can. Most of the time, you arrive victoriously on the other side.
It's best, you and your guy just don't let it bother you right now. Instead, help him to concentrate on the future and keep your goals in the front and important. Time will take care of this and your character will be strengthened. I promise! It won't be the last time you get a bad boss either.