[DianeRay]

I know kids in general, teens especially tend to get lazy, but when and where do you put your foot down and say, that's enough.

What expectations do you have from your kids and at what age? What chores must they do and what tasks do you no longer do for them?
I recently mentioned to my husband how frustrated I am these days that his 15 year old son does nothing, nothing, nothing. Yet he expects so much in return. And while I think it serves no purpose to be on his back and say "get up and do something", I do think its time to say "no" when he asks for a service; can you bring me to my friend's house (a few blocks away) can you make me a sandwich, can you give me some money, can I borrow your this, that or other.

He once told me that while playing video games at a friend's house, the step mother there had served them drinks and snacks as they played. He looked at me in all seriousness and said, "I'd like it if you did that once in a while."
Huh? While you're spending the day playing video games and chatting on the computer and watching to tv, you want me to stop what I'm doing and bring you a snack?
While I may have done that when he was younger, there was no way I would do it now. And it's not because he's my step son. As I told him, I would be as hard if not harder were he my son.
I was just wondering how you guys work all this out.
Thanks