[Alicia_D]

Hello everyone! I have a situation I could use some advice on. My husband and I have been married for almost a year now (june 30th) and I really want to start trying to get pregnant. We've been together for almost 3 years now, and this is not a new discussion. I told him from very early on that I want children, and I want to be a young mother. My mom had me when she was 19 and I want that for my kids. I am going to be 23 in july and my husband will be 28 next month. He keeps telling me he isn't ready emotionally or mentally, he doesn't want to lose his freedom and he doesn't think our finances are good enough. Yesterday I went through all the numbers and we can easily afford to raise a child in a comfortable situation. I understand the not wanting to lose your freedom, I worry about the same thing but I know once the baby is here, all that worry will be gone. Ive been reading up on this topic for the last few days and I found a book that we are both going to read. I hope that helps our situation... Its not only my decision, it affects his life too. We've talked about it a lot this last year, and it doesn't seem like he is making any progress on getting prepared. At one point we had gone looking at baby stuff, cribs, strollers, etc... I thought we were going to start trying then and then suddenly the topic was taboo. So how can I help us get back to that point? How do you work with your spouse on getting him comfortable with making that kind of step? Any advice would help... this is a pretty touchy subject in our house and I don't want it to be that way anymore...