How to deal w/Adult Step kid that won't move out..
I am the mother of 6 children. My oldest has a child and lives on her own. My second oldest is in College and also lives on her own. The next child is 16 (girl) and lives with me and my new husband. (I was married 16 years to a man I had 5 children with) My next two kids-ages 14 and 13 live with their Dad. My youngest is 7 and lives half the time with me and half with His Dad. Now, the problem is my husbands kids. He has 3 kids-all girls. The oldest of them is married with 3 kids and lives in a mobile home park. The youngest of his is 15 and lives half the time with us-half with her Mother. The problem is the middle child of his. She is 21. Her BF is 27. They came to live with us March 2007 because they couldn't afford the rent at their apartment. This move was suppose to be temporiary but now it is December and we just found out She is PREGNANT. Great! Grrrrr Her BF is a loser. He only works odd jobs here and there. She works as a part time hair stylist. They do pay rent-only 400 a month and nothing else yet they are late to pay it every month by at least a week or two. Now they have to complicate the situation by now being pregnant. They are staying in our basement. This daughter of his has always been a snot. That is putting it nicely. She is self centered, overweight, rude and treats her Dad like ****. He keeps saying to me "Well, she used to be my favorite when she was young...always so helpful" Well, she is not a little girl anymore and she is taking advantage of us. All three of his kids treat him like an ATM and I am sick to death of it. Him and I have been married now for a year and a half but have been together for a total of 5 and a half years. I know that the reason why his kids are the way they are is the way they were raised. His wife at the time (mother of their kids) always said she wanted to be their "best friend" instead of a mother. Every time they got in trouble, my husband would ground them but then she would say that was too harsh and then let them off the hook. I know this is why they act like spoiled little witches. Even the ex-wife treats him like an ATM. We could be a family gathering and she will say something to him like "Hey, give so-and-so some money for a new bathing suit cause I'm taking her on a trip" Crap like that just irratates me to know end. My husband recently got a phone call from his oldest daughter (the one that is married) and she was telling him "Oh, we haven't made the house payment in 3 months and all the utility bills....we need your help" She doesn't work and he spouse does work full time. My husband felt guilty that their gas would be shut off so he gave them 800 bucks. I was so ticked. She should have gotten off her fat A-- and gotten a job months ago if they knew they were falling behind. That is just some examples of the crap. Shortly after we moved into our new home we found out that his oldest daughter defaulted on a car loan he co-signed on.....So.....he had to go pay the bill off and it was 10,000!!! That was 4 years ago. She has since acted like"What's the bill deal??" His middle daughter was a little over 17 when we moved into our house. His ex-wife was trying to go to court and charge him with child support because this daughter (who is the one currently living with us-pregnant with the loser bf) would not come and live with us half of her over-nights until she turned 18 which would have only been 8 months. So........he got charged 10,000 for child support because she was a selfish B----!! Real nice how 4 years later we take her in with a BF who has been in and out of jail since he was 18! How do I deal with all this?? I want them OUT but husband is reluctant to give them a time limit now that she is pregnant!! I don't want to ruin my marriage either but I don't know how to get these two OUT OF OUR HOUSE!!!
Help!!
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